Headship Covenant & Submission

Headship covenant over our daughters & Submission
Is it biblical for a father to have a Headship covenant over his daughters?
What if the daughter has no father? What if the daughter has a father that is a unbeliever? What if it is a culture thing? What if….What if….

What if the phrase Headship covenant, regarding our daughters turns out all to be a sham? Covenant implies mutuality btw.For those who do not know.


 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a woman is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. 1 Cor 11:3

Scripture regarding this, in depth– 

1 Corinthians 11 “I would have you know, that the head of every man is (Christ); and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of the Messiah is God. Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonors his head. But every woman that prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head. A man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man…… Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man….. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.”

Then we have the text of Ephesians, chapter 5. “Be filled with the Spirit,…  Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and He is the savior of the body. Therefore as the Church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave himself for it; that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to himself a glorious Church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Thus ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. No man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord of the Church…. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife should reverence her husband.”

From these texts…. the headship and submission that Paul talks about have to do with the relationship between husbands and wives, NOT fathers and daughters. I am sure that fathers can counter with other verses and sundry about children obeying and honoring their parents yada, yada…..But, if we were to do that, then what about things like abuse? Where is the line about honoring our parents in conjunction with so many other things. Are we not forever, picking and chooseing? I would have to say yes, we are.


Where there is control and demands, and guilt laid to the platter, there is no love, grace,mercy or compassion on that very same platter. In return it narrows down on Religious control. *sigh*
When we read that woman is for man, not man for woman, we need to remember the Creation story in full. Adam was created on the sixth day, as were the beasts. He was alone and so God caused him to fall into a deep sleep, When he woke, there was Eve, taken from his rib, that part of the body that protects the heart. Now the Hebrews  point out that the Sabbath, the seventh day, doesn’t begin at sundown. It begins when there is not enough light to distinguish between a black and a white thread. There is that twilight, which is not the 6th or the 7th day.

 When do we sleep? When the sun goes down. It was when he (Adam) woke on Sabbath that Adam found Eve. She was God’s Sabbath gift to him. She makes him fully human, even though he had been created on the same day as the beasts. She  divinizes him, for “In His own image He made them; male and female he made them.” This is why the woman is “for man,” lest man return to the beasts..
Looking back at Ephesians…. Headship is not about control, it is about service. I never understood headship regarding daughters, only what I have been taught in the past, and just went along with it.

Praise the Lord he has been patient with us for twisting scripture to suit our fancy.
 Headship and leadership are not the same thing mind you. Leadership emerges from different places in different situations. When I am hungry, it is my stomach that leads me. It is the head’s job to get what the stomach needs, and to do it in a reasonable and healthy way, but it is nonetheless a matter of the service of the head to the body, not the other way around. In this case, the head submits to the body, for it’s well being, just as Christ submitted to death for the sake of His bride, the Church.

The most important word in the text is “as.” No one in the Greco Roman world doubted that a woman should submit to her husband. Paul modifies that submission by the word “as.” A woman was not to submit as to the emperor, not as to a slave owner, but as to the Messiah (Christ in Greek). A husband was to love his wife. A Greek would have asked, “Why?” A woman had no soul. She was a domestic appliance that could have children and was also useful, as were daughters,  for cementing business deals. Love and amusement, well, there were lots of other people for that sort of thing. Not only does Paul tell the Greeks of Ephesus to love their wives, but to love them “as” Christ loves the Church.
I am learning almost daily what bible based bullying is. It is about control.  It is about Religion, and having Religion run not only YOUR life, but the lives of everyone else around you.

I pray that all my loved ones find the Liberty and Freedom that Christ soooooo wants us to each have…


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