Regarding today’s “lack of” community/friendship. I have found there are 3 groups of people. We all fall into one of these groups it appears.
1. Don’t Bother Me, and I won’t bother you!
This group of people like their privacy. They generally move out to the county or mountains, for this reason alone.
They have a few close friends from child-hood, or maybe college, that they managed to keep in touch with through snail mail through-out the years, and now since technology has taken over the world, they do speak slightly more often, as the puter, and cell, will forever remain close by. Or will it? And if it doesn’t, what then?
They will remain friends till death due them part. This is all they need! Do not ask them to get together during the week for coffee or tea, and forget about that danish or bagel! And most definitely, do not invite them over your house for a BBQ on the weekends.
~As they are too busy with work & life, and if they are Christians, then they also have church obligations to attend too. Throw in the children if they have any, and when none of these things are shouting out for their attention..they just want to be left alone in the privacy of their home, with no intruders knocking on the door, or pestering them to come over.
Intruders? Is that what people have been belittled down too? Whether you are a believer or not, what about Loving your neighbor? What about Hospitality? Are those Loss Arts too?
Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares. Hebrews 13:2
Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:9
Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. Romans 12:13
I know that everyone does not naturally have the gift of Hospitality, and I fully realize that just because the bible says something, does not mean that we need to do it by our “own” means. That would be impossible to try to accomplish by ourself, and if we did, we would surely become a legalist faster then ever.
If this is the case tough, what is it about Christ that we are not getting, that is allowing us to shun everyone that is not in our click, and never invite others into our lives? Sure, we have all been hurt, some more then others, but is this reason enough to give up and throw in the towel on humanity? Evidently, most folks seem to think so.
2. If your family, that is fine, come on over..If I have known you for a veryyyyyy long time, and you are like-minded, come on over. Other wise, LEAVE ME ALONE! But…God Bless you, and Have a nice day too!
These folks are so wrapped up in their own cocoons, that they will hate you, but you’d never know it, because they will agree with you, that you need to hook up real soon, but you never actually do.
They will bless, and curse you, with their charming words of mannerism. This gives a whole new meaning to; “Out of the mouth, the heart speaks”
3. ~The Needys~ People who only contact you when they NEED something from you. Haven’t we all had one, or more of these type of friends? You don’t hear from them for weeks and months on end. But you eventually get that call out of the blue….NOT to find out how things are…but ONLY to ask you for something. They do not “really” want to know how you have been, it is just their good manners to ask. If you have the gift of discernment, you know what I am talking about here. You can feel it!
These type of people need to learn to love people, and use things, instead of using people, and loving things.
4. OK, so maybe their are 4 groups of people..
People who are simply looking for fellowship. Fellowship that is TRUE, and REAL, is not judge-mental,controlling, or religious. People who will NOT place their religion, ABOVE relationships. People that will just accept you as you are, and love you regardless. People that will grow with you, not against you.
Doesn’t that sound GREAT?