Some people are only your friend for the things that they can receive from you.
If your sympathetic, they will seek you out for sympathy.
It you are giving materialistically, they will seek you out for gifts.
If you are a good listener, they will seek you out to be their personal confidaunt and so on..
Where should the line be though? And, should there even be a line? Is it really that black and white?
What if the person who has always been sympathetic, gets tired?
What if the friend who’s showering everyone with gifts, starts to feel used?
What if the good listener gets worn-out, listening to everyone elses’ problems?
As in any relationship..we need to have Patience with people, especially our friends and loved ones. Patience in itself, is long-suffering at times but has its rewards. Being loving, carring and gentle with people is the key to successful friendships and relationships.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things that last forever:
Faith, hope, and love;
But the greatest of them all is love.
Keep in mind that not every friendship we make, is going to be one of those deep, indulging, larger then life friendships. If they were, then we would never have any time to just be, breath, or even have life outside of them.
I love the quote:
~Friends are like a rainbow; they come and go, but while they are here, they bring much beauty and color into your life.~
It’s so true!
You’ll meet people by divine accident. You’ll meet people through family & other friends. You’ll meet people at work & school. You’ll meet people out walking. You’ll meet people by praying, and You’ll even meet people online….
Imagine how many people you have already met in your life thus far. Now imagine if every single one of them became your buddy. WOW!
Guess no one would ever be lonely, but would gladly welcome it.
So what makes certain friends more desirable/valuable then others?
I am not 100% sure, but my amature guess would be that it falls under chemistry. Others say it is solely a vibe/intuition upon first meeting.
This can be said for ALL relationships in our lives. Even the ones with our children and parents.
This is why we always click just a bit better with either Mom, OR Dad. We try not to play favorites with our children or siblings, but the truth is, we end up clicking, meshing and understanding one of them more then the others. It just happens!
We are often times drawn to certain people…. Sometimes people who we’d never have guessed we would be drawn to.
I have always found it really interesting when I have a friend carry on and on about someone new they’ve just met. They will insist that I have to meet her. That she is so great, etc.
Want to guess what happens when I meet them?
I don’t like them! And it’s odd, because we all know that we should not be judging a book by its cover, or upon first meeting. How is it then that you can meet someone only one time and have that instant feeling of uneasiness. Not to get confused with hate, or thinking bad thoughts about them. Just feelings that the two of you are never going to be best buds.
It’s truly fasinating… how this always plays out.
For me the opposite stands. It’s the people that other people don’t always click with, that I click best with. Does this happen to anyone else?
I will have someone tell me about an awful person that they’ve met, or know. Going onand on about everything they don’t like about them etc..
When afterwards I reply, “So when can I meet them?” :o)~