Fatherly Advice

The scene: 

The father had a tattoo with his birthday across his lower back. September 8,1985. His daughter looked to be around five or six years old.


Worst advice I ever heard from a father to his daughter today at the outside pool:
Father: Lisa! Lisa! COME HERE!
Daughter: Yes Daddy?
Father: Remember, you don’t have to stay playing with your little friend the whole time we are here.

You have the green band because you were fearless, and took the test. She was too Scared!

SO YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT TO TO DO!  If you want to go on the logs or down the water slide, don’t worry about leaving her behind. You think of yourself, and what YOU WANT TO DO.

Daughter:: Okay daddy, but I’m having fun playing with my friend…

Father: Okay, but just remember, if you get bored, you just leave her to go do something else.
Daughter: Okay daddy….

And she ran back to play..

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60 minutes special 

I was watching a segment on 60 minuets the other day with my family. They were having an interview with a man who designed the smartphone, and how it was purposely designed to be an addictive entity. 

Yes, we all know how additive smartphones can be. I was once very addicted to mine, regarding social media. Facebook, Twitter, Tumblur, Pinterest, YouTube, The Hunt… I used them all! The only one I didn’t have, was Instagram. Which I hear is also owned by Face book now. So…

I try to never fully become addictive to anything. And I know the warning signs on when to cut myself off and quit things.

I have an addictive personality to began with. Which is probably why I stayed clear of drugs as a teen. I know I would have got myself addicted and probably OD’d. *sigh*

So back in June of 2015, I went cold turkey from social media. 

A couple weeks prior to cutting myself off from it, I turned all my notifications on my cellphone off.

That, in itself helped ALOT! I highly recommend doing that if you can relate.

By doing that I was able to once again, take control of myself.

Then I started praying that the desire to be connected with people all the time would cease.

I had people all over the world reaching out to me to ‘chat’ Hours on end. Single moms, abusive wives….etc.

And seeing as I get involved,  and invested rather quickly, it was making me go a stir crazy. 

I found myself in constant worry about people whom I have never met before. People in India, Spain, England. 

I would have dreams and nightmares about these people. 

Amd it got to the point that it was just never enough time invested. People wanted to talk all the time, and it was taking me away from my actually family life.

So one day I just cut myself off completely! 

At first it was only going to be for a month. For years I would take a couple months out of each year to fast from social media. I got my Facebook account back in 2007. Before that, I was all about message boards. Which had their place, but were equally addicting.. looking back at them now.

This time was different though. After the first month of social media fasting was over I didn’t have the urge to log back on.

 Then another month went by. I started getting texts from online friends who I had gotten close too. They asked if I was going to return online, and if so, when.

I even had a woman ask my husband for my number so she could call me to just vent. She told him that I was her favorite person to vent too. 

I didn’t even have to think about it after that one…

The answer was clear. No!

 I was not going to log back on. 

Keeping in mind, my number one weakness was facebook. After all, it really conbined everything into one place.

But I was fine. Completely fine! *still shocked*

It has been two years now.

Yes, I do go on Twitter still, but it’s not at all addicting and I don’t have a dozen people always opening chat to talk the day away. As for Facebook, I closed my account with them. And it feels like it was a lifetime ago. I think of all the hours that were wasted. I try not to beat myself up about that, but I do. All those hours that I invested trying to save people. 

I hear that most folks use social media to stay in contact with family… but really, if it’s family, they have your number if they have anything substantial to discuss with you. 

As for me, the few family members that I did have on my social media were no one that I was really close to at all…maybe as a child, but then people grow up, move away, and start their own lives. And that’s not a bad, or sad thing.

  It’s life! It’s perfectly fine! Really.

When I think of my family now… it’s not at all the distant relatives

It’s the people who I live with. THEY are my family. I know it may sound mean, but I really don’t consider aunts, uncles, or cousins, relevant to me anymore. I have one sibling that I have not spoken to in several years. I use to try because I thought it was important. But I was just living in the past. Thinking of all the childhood memories instead of living in the present/future. 

 Sure we use to lol on each other’s Facebook posts from time to time, but other then that, we have both chosen different lifestyles and do not share anything in common other then our DNA. And for me, that is simply not enough to warrant a relationship. It’s not.

So getting back to that 60 minutes episode and addictions. 

The employee was discussing how the staff designed the phone to make the user addictive. As well as all social media sites to follow suit.

 In fact, the studies they have done have shown how the brain gets stimulated each time someone likes, follows, or interacts with you.

It also tracks your likes with times of days, and which emojis you use frequently use. It really is designed to…. ummm… F*** with your brain to make you feel a certain way.  More less.

Mind blowing! At least to me it is. 

I know this is the world we live in, and that most folks don’t bat an eye at any of this.. it is what it is.. sort of speak..

But I am in control of how and when I use social media now. I do not wish to have something have that power over me. It’s personal to me.

Now let’s talk about advertisers for a quick minute. 

This is my new annoyance. One in which I hope I have put an end too now,  by always clearing my cookies, browser, and keeping my blue tooth, location, and Siri off. 

Yes, I sometimes use these add-ons. I don’t care about Siri, but I need to need to use locations when I use shop-kick, ubur, or fly. But as soon as I’m done, they go right back off. I also don’t allow things to access my pictures or personal information. This has taken many videos and reads to know how to manage my privacy settings to assist me. I am not saying that I do not think cell phones, or even social media should have never been invented. I realize, both, have their place. What I am saying, is that I want to be able to choose how and when I use them. And if possible, I do not want companies using my personal whereabouts and data to profit themselves without my consent. 
Example: A couple weeks ago while out thrift shopping for eBay, I came across a brand of blue jeans that I have never heard of before. 

 I quickly pulled out my phone and googled the brand. To my surprise, they were worth $200 a pair. So I bought them to resell.

What do you think came next?

The following week I got a catalogue in the mail from that jean brand. Coincidence? I think not. 

Thinking back now, this is not the first time this has happened to me.

I hate how every single move we make is getting tracked. Not that we are doing anything wrong. Well, at least most of us, that is. We are all just living our lives.. but in a very public fashion nowadays. If I was younger, perhaps this wouldn’t phase me. But as I am getting older, I demand to live a more discreet life. And if I want to share an event, I will. But that will be my choice. This is why I’ve never tagged people in pictures while on Facebook. I use to have people tag me in pics, and it would drive me nuts! I find it terribly rude.

I’ve tried to keep myself on the low-down these past couple years. I never give my real email, zip code or phone number to any of the cashiers that ask. And they all ask nowadays, it seems. Can’t I even enjoy my shopping hobby without being harassed?!  Strong words, but I do see it as harassment.

Last year I was shopping and the cashier asked me for my zipcode before proceeding to ring up my order. She caught me at a moment when I was already feeling cranky. As I was standing in a very long line for the past twenty minutes.

When asked, I told her that my zipcode did not matter.  So no, she could not have it.

What happened next?

She claimed that I couldn’t purchase the items then. That she needed a zipcode.

 It really anerved me.I was not going to let it go though. I told her to please get the store manager for me. He came over and asked me why I didn’t want to give the cashier my zipcode. I told him that giving my zipcode was not an option. He then made it look like I was the problem because I wouldn’t give them it. It was so dumb! But I was not going to do it. 

So he ended up telling the cashier to put the towns local zipcode in and proceed. 

I never did go back to that store. And yes, I know how it works, they want my zipcode to track who, and when people from other towns come to their stores. They also want to track what we buy, and how much. That way they can know how much to order, and when. I get it! 

But this should not be mandatory. And by no means should the customer be made to feel belittled for not complying to such a question.

 How did stores manage before? They just did!

Sure, it’s just a silly zipcode, not your blood. But it’s the principle of it. Why can’t a person go into a store and buy something anymore without giving away personal information?

And who knows, some day ot may be blood.

My new goal is to go back to using just cash. It’s not that I don’t want to embrace this worlds changes. I love change, in fact. But it needs to be optional. Do not ask me to comply and give my concent to everything. It’s simply not going to happen.

Rant over.

New Toy! EVO RV headset

I went to a party this past Saturday and tried to win this puppy. I guess I’m late to the party, as be never seen this headset before this past Saturday.

I did win something, btw,  I won a Micheal Kors clutch instead. Worth $108, so I shouldn’t complain. 😉

Alas’I kept thinking about this headset though, so yesterday I went  out and bought it. It’s very easy to use!

You just download an App, then slide your phone in the back part, and you are ready for your virtual reality expirence.

It feels like you are in a planetarium. 🌌

You can watch Videos, YouTube,etc.

Oh! And if you are thinking this would cost a lot of money, Nope! $14.99 at Walmart.

Winston Salem Walmart

I have no idea what is going on with our Walmart, but I think I will wait a couple months before going there again. It took me twice as long to find anything tonight.

They moved the greeting cards to the very front of the store. They use to be by the stationary and school supplies. Not anymore.
Maybe no one is buying cards anymore? Maybe that’s why they felt the need to bring them to the front of the store. I have no idea. I still buy cards though. 
They moved the men’s clothing section over by the food. That is where the infant and toddler clothing use to be.
The shoe section they put right behind the greeting cards. The ladies clothing was switched out by the handbags and jewelry, over by the make-up, and the toy section the left alone. 
It was such a mess!

I’ve never seen it this empty!😳

I have no idea what’s happening here, but much of the frozen food was completely gone. 🤔

A whole lot of clearance things.


They were out of my favorite cough drops. 😐

Rite Aid trip & The Flu

I was at Rite-Aid yesterday and something happened that I am still confused over.
As I was in line paying, an older woman, maybe mid-50’s, came up behind me and said “excuse me ma’am’ to the cashier.

The cashier stopping ringing me up, which was fine, as I was not in a hurry and I had a stack of coupons and was going to be there a while…

I turned around to see a woman with a flu-mask on.

I’m always set back when I see so many people out and about with these masks on. It’s one thing if you are at the pharmacy, because there is no one at home to run and get your meds, etc…But to be out and about–Subway, Pizza Hot (not eating, but just with your friends.) At conveniences stores getting cigarettes…WITH THE FLU!?
And yesterday, at RITE-AID….

What was so important? Why was she there? I didn’t notice any pharmacy bags in her hand.

She told the cashier and I not to worry, that she would leave her mask on. She was just diagnosed with the flu the previous day…

She then went on to tell the cashier that the wild birds ran out of bird seed, and she hated to have to come out, but what was she going to do?

The cashier and I exchanged glances..as to say, “I don’t know, stay home?!”

And if you really feel that the birds won;t be able to manage for a couple days, have a freind bring you a bag of bird seed?

Don’t get me wrong, I feed the wild birds here, regularly…I have been watching the Eastern Blue birds all morning..

But if I had the flu, I would not be leaving the house under no circumstances…
She said she just lived around the corner and didn’t want to travel far…Which was good.

The cashier told her that bird seed was seasonal, and they haven’t gotten it in yet. She then said thank you, and off to Walmart she went…

After she left the cashier told me she was crazy to be out for bird seed. I think I am more mad when I have my little ones with me…and that has happened in the past with people wearing masks, yet when they get in a coughing frenzy, they REMOVE them..to cough it out! This past year that happened at Sheetz, and we got sick. I wonder if it would be seen as rude to tell them that they should BE HOME!
Speaking of illnesses…I think it’s interesting that a rare-like Polio strand has been hitting California, paralyzing young kids…

Makes you wonder if the virus has been ‘let out’ purposely…So now they can ‘GET BUSY’ and work on a vaccine for it.

As well as this new flu strand that is targeting younger people..for those who DIDN’T feel the need to get the flu vaccine previous years, due to their age….
Will NOW run out and get it..Which apparently worked!
My friend April who has never felt the need to get the flu shot, got it this year, then got the flu.

DH and I have only gotten the flu shot once. And that was the year we both got the flu.
DH was telling me about a news report that he heard that said, many companies are now called DSS on their employees if they choose NOT to get the flu shot…:o(

It really does feel as if we are in the last days…

Will we not be able to buy or sell without a mark in this generation?
Will we get prosecuted for our love for Christ and stance on Freedom?

Will we die trying?

That is the question..

Are we really prepared for what lies ahead?

How about our children?

I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t been making me nervous…and I do not want to spend the rest of my days on earth focused on all of this. I want to live life to it’s fullest!

 

~THE MALL~

The day started off waking at the crack of dawn…. Not my favorite time to wake up. In fact, any time before ten is too early.

DH wanted me to go to work with him today, sooo…

I can’t eat that early, so arrived tired and irritable.

DH was planning on taking a half day, that was the plan.

Then we were going to go to the mall.

I love Ruby Tuesdays Salad Bar, and was very much looking forward to having one, then hitting the stores to check out all the sales.

Three hours after hanging out at DH’s work, I decided to make myself some coffee in the break room.

After two coffees, I fell a sleep for an hour.

There is a couch in DH’s office.
I woke up, and DH asked me, if I wanted him to drop me off across the street at Plato’s Closet.

He dropped me off, and as I walked in the store, they told me that they were not open.

I replied, “but the doors open? The sign says 10am, OPEN”

She told me, due to the storm yesterday, they were opening an hour later.

I glanced out to the parking lot, and noticed that there was no snow out there, AT ALL!

 In fact, it was just wet!

Why were they there? With the door open, and yet not open?! 

 DH had already left, so I decided to go next door to Once Upon A Child.

The door was locked!

A lady came over, opened the door, and said, “due to the storm that we had yesterday, they would be opening an hour later” Great!

I had no option, but to call DH back to come pick me up.

He did, and decided to drop me off at the mall instead.

Surely they would be open!

THEY WERE! Yay!

He dropped me off, and would be back in a few hours, he said.

Keep in mind, I only go to the mall twice a year….

 

I can not stand paying retail for anything! And then just the commercialism..many reasons, actually.

 

ALSO–I hate, hate, being sought out to buy things that I don’t want!

I also don’t like being talked to, when I shop. I like a clear mind….

Yeah, I’m a bit of a loner when I shop. I guess?

I don’t want to be asked if anyone can help me find it something… I don’t want to be persuaded to try anything new, and I definitely don’t like, when all those middle booths…try to grab you into looking at their product.

Ten years ago, it wouldn’t have phased me.

But at my age, I know what I like….

I know what I want, and I have limitations on how much I am willing to spend for it.

I walked in, in hopes to find a new watch strap, for one of my more pricier watches..

I stopped to ask the sales man, if he carrys any leather yellow watch bands?

That I needed to replace one.

I took my watch from my purse, so that he could take a measurement.

He measured it, and told me that he doesn’t carry any yellow ones. (Why did he bother measuring it?)

I reached for my watch back, however, he kept it clenched in his hand and told me to wait, that he has some nice black ones that may work.

(I made it clear that I needed it to be yellow, as the face plate was yellow, and it had to be yellow.)

He still insisted on keeping the watch in his hand, then  reached for the key to open a case, to show me some nice black straps. Ugh!

I felt helpless, so just stood there and let him show me…

After he was done, he told me that was all he had, and then asked me how long I have had the watch, and where did it come from? Again, Irrelevant?!

I put it back in my purse and continued on…

 

Next, I stopped at Claire’s. My daughter has been looking for a bow cuff earring.

I walked in, and was greeted with a smile and hello.

That was nice, However, as I was looking at the earrings the sales lady came over and asked me if I needed any help finding something?

I told her that I was looking for a Bow cuff earring.

She told me that they did not carry any bows…That was fine.

 

Next I walked past Coach! *drool*

I only have two real Coach bags, but really, Can a girl ever have TOO MANY Coach bags? They were gifts from DH, of course.

The sales lady saw me looking in the window, drooling, no less…And asked me to come in… to see their new Legacy line that starts at only $398.00!! *fainting*

I told her that was OK, and continued looking at the display of bags in the window….My eyes went to the yellow one, which was the exact shade of yellow that I needed my watch strap to be.

 Then I got upset, thinking back on the guy trying to sell me a black strap!

Did I mention that I am PMS’ing today? ;oP

 

I decided to Go to JC-Pennys next.

I wanted to get DH some new work shirts, along with a new coat. He never shops for himself…And honestly, I wish he did! But—

 

Pennys is one of the few stores that carrys BIG & Tall sizes.

I ended up finding some good sales on IZOD!

I found him four shirts, and a coat.

When I walked up to pay, the sales lady asked me if I would be using my Pennys Credit card today?

 I told her I didn’t have one…Because OF COURSE everyone does, right?

I told her I would be using my bank card, and she asked me if I was not in a hurry, they are in training to use a new system, where they take down your bank information,  then next time I come in, I will not have to go through the trouble of showing them anything.

That I will have a code, and I would just give them that..:o/ 

I told her that I was in a hurry…She then made a sad face, and told me that she was looking forward to someone being her Guini pig…OK!

 

I left the store, forgetting that I had to actually go through Pennys to get to the other side…and actually got lost…lol THEN I had a guy notice my flip-phone and was trying to get me to upgrade….I firmly told him NO! and he was so persuasive, that he grabbed my arm to get me to stop, and told me that I would break his heart if I didn’t let him tell me about his deals on cell phones..And seriously! With his broken English, it was amazing that I understood him at all! I gave him a mean look, as to say…Please don’t tocuh me..and then he said, “Come on Baby, don’t be like that!”

Since when did the mall become like this?????? I picked up the pace, and continued walking, and then was stopped by 2 teens asking me if I could escort them to the food court? I told them NO!  (They were teen boys, about 17? 18?) I think they could find it them-self! Not trying to be mean, but….

Then A lady stopped me and asked me if I had only 20minutes, that she can flat iron my hair and make it look Amazing! I told her I like my wavy hair! Kept walking…..

Then i was approached my the Clinique lady who asked me if I wanted to sample some new products? I told her that I would love to have some free products, except Clinique breaks my skin out! She then turned her back on me, but it is true…it really, REALLY does!

 

I then stopped in at Bath & Body Works. Our mall has two of them.

One on each side of the mall.

I was hesitant at first, as I REALLY hate being bombarded by the staff in there, and they ALWAYS lay it on thick!

I realize lots of ladies like that, but I don’t.

I  paused in front of the store for a few minutes and glanced in the  window..contemplating if I really wanted to be badgered?

 

I guess so….

As I love hitting their AFTER Holiday SALES, when their limited Edition products are 75% off.

Of course it was way in the back..So I decided to tip-toe in, in hopes that I would look unapproachable..Maybe? NOT!! 

 Two ladies came up and welcomed me, and asked  if I was interested in trying their new fragrances?

 I smiled, and said no thank you.

 I then walked over to the sales table and one of the same ladies… that I’d just spoken with, asked me again…Did I need any help?

 

I told her no thank you…

 

 She then asked me how I was enjoying the cold weather? I said it was fine.

She then told me that their new Winter line is wonderful, and asked if I would care to see the new collection of products. I said I was good….

She then told me, that when I cash out, they have their new Valentine’s Day fragrances out, that were in a, TRY ME dollar size.

I told her OK, and thank you! While silently wanting to slap her! (PMS)

So I picked up what I liked from the sales table, and went to cash out.

There was one lady in front of me cashing out, too.

The sales lady told her that the fragrance she was buying was HER absolutely favorite scent! And that she was such a savvy buyer…..and she made some great choices! Yada, Yada….

I was next, I put my four products on the counter, and she did the SAME THING with me! She picked up the shower gel (which was different from the previous ladies.) She told me it was her favorite one!! She also commented on my clearance items, and told me what a Savvy shopper I was!

OH, and then she asked me if I was interested in trying one of their Valentine’s Day lotions in the TRY ME SIZE?

I said no thank you…cashed out, and left…

I was feeling exhausted by this point..but still had much time to kill..So continued on.
Next, I went to my favorite store, next to World Market that is….

Earth Bound Trading Company! 

I walked in and noticed that all the Hippie Clothing was 40% off the lowest ticket price.

Granted the lowest prices were $40 bucks.

I looked through the stuff, and quickly talked myself out of buying any more clothing, as I just bought several new pieces the other day…

 

 I turned and looked at the jewelery, as one could never have “too much” jewelery!

And  as I was looking at all the fair trade items…He yells to me… that they are buy one, get one free…

I picked out a couple pairs of earrings. 

Then my eye caught the Nomad bags!

I normally buy them at Whole Foods, because I rarely get to the mall, but since I was there and all..

I started going through them and noticed that the regular price was $30-$50 dollars each!  They were all marked down to $19.99, thou.

 

He then yells at me that they are an additional 30% off the $19.99!!

I then picked one up and noticed he was right beside me and told me that I looked like a girl who could use more then one bag….Ha-Ha!

 

I told him that I bet he says that to all the ladies!

He laughed…KNEW IT!!

But I agreed…I could use more then one…

Well, not really…I have about 30 bags at home..

But they are such a good investment, what the hay? :o)

I chose two, and went to pay…

As I was at the register, I noticed a small table next to wear I was paying with several gag gifts on it…I picked up one of them and added it to the counter.

 

When he saw it, he said, “OH? so you are into THAT, HUH?”

I looked at him confused….and he quickly said, “OH, is that a gift for someone??” Still confused, I replied, “Yes, it’s a gift for a friend. My friend likes these.”
He then says, “OH, I was going to say…”
THAT peeked my curiosity, onto what exactly he was thinking???? Then he tried to add more..and told me he only thought..that because of my black nail polish and gift….and….

I corrected him, because I would never wear black nail polish! No offence to anyone that would..I’ts just not for me..and besides…I’m wearing Midnight Plum! Sheesh!

Then he didn’t add more to that…sooooo? Oh well!

I paid, and left!

 

By this time it was time to make my way back to Ruby Tuesdays to meet DH for lunch. I got the salad bar, which is so darn good!!

Dh got a spicy sampler thing.

The waiter noticed that I only went up one time, and when he brought the check over, he told me that he didn’t feel right charging me $7.99 for only one salad, that most people go up several times… So he charged me only $2.99.

That was very nice, However, due to his niceness, I left him the extra $$ as a tip.:o)

 

After we ate, dh had a seat, to people watch. 

 I hit Old Navy. Probably a forth of my wardrobe is from Old Navy..As I always find such good deals there.
I also love that they never greet me, OR ask if they could help me find anything. :o)~
I walked in and looked at all the new Spring Stuff on all the mannequins. Tangerine Melon is the NEW Spring color!!

I ended up finding a pair of work-out pants, and 3 tops! Couldn’t resist the three tops, as they were marked down to only $5 dollars each.

 I never wear stripes, but since one of my New Years Resolutions was to wear more color…OTHER then my standard, gray,black,mocha, and brown..with the occasional white…
I decided to branch out, and buy a couple striped blouses.

 

I cashed out and Told DH that I wanted to hit Lane Bryant.

He needed to go to Radio Shack, which was right next to LB. He went off to RS, and I entered Lane Bryant. I love, love Lane Bryant, however…they are plus size, and I am finally down to their smalled size clothing..which is a 14. :o(

Never thought I would be sad about that..but….I AM!

I was greeted by a older women, who told me that they are having a great under-ware sale right now.

$5 for $25 dollars. She also told me that the bras were $40, but if you buy two, you would get one free. I told her thank you.

I walked over to their sales rack, noticing that the cheapest tops were marked down to $39 each! And I didn’t need any more clothing, so I walked over to the display of under-ware…I had my head down, as I was looking through the 20+ different varieties!

Then I got startled..by a mans voice behind me….!!

“GREAT PANTY SALE MA’AM!”

I quickly turned around to noticed that this guy was an employee!?!

It REALLY bothered me to have a guy employee, in an all women’s store, such as Lane Bryant!!
I ignored his comment, and then he asked me if I needed help finding my size? SERIOUSLY??

I told him I was fine..and then he VERY cheerfully told me how the regular price for these PANTIES…were $15 a piece, and that their $5 for $25 was a steal of a deal!! then he laughed because he made a RHYME!!!!!!!!

 

I smiled, and agreed that it was a very good deal, which is was.

Generally it would cost $75 for the five pair!

 
I went ahead and picked some out…then noticed some fuzzy socks, and picked up a pack of those two.

There was no one behind the register, and the older lady, along with the young man, were busy chatting among themselves.

HE then noticed I was ready to cash out….and I silently started praying for the older lady to come cash me out..

(I KNOW! I KNOW! I’m a prude sometimes….But I did NOT want some strange guy that was just chit chatting about my undies…ringing me out!)

 But—-no such luck!

He said he would cash me out! I contemplated putting the stuff back..but I did really want the stuff…

He was so overly cheerful, it was bothering me profusely!!..(Insert PMS here!)

He counted my under-ware and then….YES!! He commented about them!! WT*?

 

First, he asked me if I knew that the New Valentine’s Day line with all the hearts and saying were also on sale, and did I see them?

I told him tat I did, but what happens after the Holiday is over?

That confused him…so I tried my best, to break the ice, and preceded to tell him that I have a tad of OCD, and as much as those Valentine’s Day ones were cute….

I simply would NOT wear them AFTER the Holiday was over..

Which is why I never buy any Christmas ones….

Well, THAT just made him feel MORE comfortable talking ‘panty-talk’ with me, And told me that the ones I picked out were really cute, but he especially liked the Polka Dot ones!

IT GETS WORST!

 

Then he told me they have the matching Polka-Dot bra, and pointed to the wall of bras…

I remained silent, and he asked me if I wanted him to go fetch me one, and what was my size?
JUST THEN, I was saved…DH walked in with his Radio Shack bag and the conversation shifted onto him!

He  looked at DH, smiled, and said…

“I see ya got some goodies at Radio Shack! Right ON BUDDY!”

 

YEP! I then pulled my bank card out to pay, he asked me for my phone number to pull up my account, then asked me why I wasn’t using my LB card..

I told him that I wanted to use my bank card, and he told me not to be silly, that if I used my LB card I would get double points, due to all the panties I bought!

 

DH looked at me.. and told me to use the bank card..

I paid, and out of the store we went!!

I’m still DEEPLY disturbed by the whole experience. :o/

 

Next I went to Spencer’s…Just to look.

Then I went and got myself a Starbucks coffee. A double RED EYE! Needed it after all that!
I was actually bummed, that the coffee shop that I normally go to, next to the Food Court, was turned into a frozen yogurt place. Guess it has been a while since I last visited…

Starbucks made them go out of business, I guess. :o(

 

We sat down to rest for an hour…Then headed to Pay-less Shoes, Hallmark,Charlotte Rouse, and Macy’s.

 

Then DH went into this store with me that only carries accessories.

I forgot the name of it, if anyone knows..Tell me..

The whole store in color coordinated. All the red purses, red belts, and red jewelery, are in one area..Green in another, sliver in another..and so on…They also have a good amount of boots and shoes.

My DD has been looking for a pair of brown fringe boots, and I found some on sale, but they didn’t have her size in brown.

I was then approached 3x in that store….asking me what color, and what item was I looking for…?

I told the ladies each time, that I was just browsing.

I swear, do they work on commission?

Or are they really just wanting to help you?

IDK, but gosh I can not stand it!!!

I am a veteran shopper!!

I do NOT need any help! (Insert PMS here!)

 

I then popped into GUESS…

I’ve had my eye on a watch there for the past two years!!

Still can’t afford it..But I like to look.:o)

 

Lastly, I went to ~Forever 21. *I WISH!*

 

I found some cute rose-gold earrings, and a few other pairs of earrings for my daughters.

YES! We love earrings!

I also got a few new lip-glosses that were marked down. That said— 
When I went up to cash out..?

IT WAS ANOTHER GUY!!!! WHY? WHY?

Why must they hire men at women’s stores!!!????!!

Honestly, I’m thinking someone is trying to make certain, that all the ladies jobs are filled, as a way to encourage them to all stay home!!!! :o/

 

 I placed my merchandise on the counter..Here we go again…

He asked me if I knew about the nail polishs that were only $2.80 a piece?

I told him yes, I saw them.

 He asks me if I wanted him to hold my stuff, so that I could go back, and check out the new nail polishes? I said no thank you.

He then picks up one of my lip glosses and tells me what a pretty color it is, and boy am I getting a good deal on all three of them!! That I’m a women that knows how to shop!!!

Umm? Do these consumer lines generally make girls want to spend more?

Or…. Are they suppose to boost our confidence in some way?? IDK!

But I know for damn sure, I’m a good shopper, a savvy one at that….and I’m very confident! I don’t need all that fluff from them! MAKE IT STOP!!

 

Had I been in a better NON PMS mood, I might have asked him what the heck he thought of the earrings?? Given he was an expert and all…?!

 

I came out of the store, rather stressed…and DH started to stress, as he does not like being around a lot of people..He hates concerts, amusement parks,circus’, and yes, malls….(WHY CAN’T GUYS JUST LIKE TO SHOP? WHY?) How are you suppose to find the good deals, if you don’t look carefully, and choose wisely? :o(

 

~He actually started feeling like he was going to have a heart attack again, he said. Started getting chest pain, and he was having trouble breathing!

So we bee-lined out of there and headed for home.

He felt much better after we arrived back home. Praise God!

 

So that was how my Day went!

I’m now baking for a party that we have to attend tomorrow afternoon..

We will be leaving for vacation Sunday Morning.

Will be away, and TEC-Free, for a whole week! Wayyyy over due! :o)

 

 

Plato's Closet & Once Upon a Child

 

Plato’s Closet is a franchise which also owns a store called Once Upon A Child. Once Upon A Child sells very gently name brand clothing from infant to size 14/16. Both Boys and Girls clothing. They also have gently used toys and baby furniture. They are an upgraded Goodwill, but in thrift, which means you take your stuff there for them to buy it outright from you.

 

Plato’s Closet is Teen size zero to adult size XL. Once again, things need to be trendy and ‘in style’ for them to buy from you.

 They sell clothing, name brand bags and purses, gym bags,school bags, DVD’s and books. Everything needs to be current and no more then two years old. Basically an affordable mall.  They also sell jewelery and watches.

 Stuff you would find at Guess, BeBe, Aeropostale, Forever 21, Hollister, Abercombie,True Religion,Charlotte Russe,Gap and Old Navy, to name a few.

 

If you buy a bag at Guess from the mall, you would spend around $80 dollars. At Plato’s you would spend around $25 dollars. Same goes for blue jeans. True Religion jeans run for $200-$300 dollars at the mall.  *fainting*

You can find them ‘like new’ at Plato’s for $40-$60. Still too much for my budget, but you get the point. :o)

 

Last night I went to Plato’s Closet ‘sister store,  ‘Once Upon  a Child’  to try to find one of my little ones a winter coat. I could have went to Walmart or Target and bought one for $20 bucks, but I did last year and it ripped after 3 months wear. Cheaper does not mean better. And if possible, I would rather buy good quality.

 

 I decided to get a name brand one this year. One that will withstand a ‘beating’ sort of speak. I ran in and  found one within 3 minutes. It’s from The Gap, and was pretty and furry, and only 8 bucks. Yay!

 

I bought it up to the cashier, and while I was paying, the sales girl asked me if I was familiar with selling clothing to them. I told her that I am, as I have taken things next store to Plato’s Closet before.

 She encouraged me to give them a try, and bring some things in, that they were always looking to buy…. and that it was the Holiday Season, and we could all use an extra few bucks. I told her OK, and that I would be back in tomorrow.

 I then went next store to Plato’s, in search of a coat for yet, another daughter. I had her old coat that I had bought last year in the van. I also had two pair of tennis shoes that were like new that I was hoping to sell.  A pink pair of ladies Gazelle Adidas, and a men’s pair of Nike’s.

 

I entered the store and was greeted right away by three employees.
Hopeful, I told one of them that I had a few things to sell to them.
They were all bubbly and excited, or so it seemed. Yay!

 

I walked over to the counter and they told me that I should leave for an hour and come back. I looked around, it was 8pm, not busy, and asked if they had a bunch of people in front of me, (already knowing the answer to that one!)

They said, no, so I told them that I would browse while I waited, as I did need to find my daughter a coat.

 

I know that a lot of ladies LOVE…. customer service with a smile, and enjoy all the greetings that Plato’s always gives them, but I am not one of them. It’s nothing personal, it’s just when I’m on a mission, ‘in the shopping zone’ I don’t like to be bothered, or talked too.
I know what I’m looking for BEFORE I even enter the store, and don’t mind browsing other things along the way, but basically, I don’t want any help finding XYZ. If I ever did find that I needed help, I would ask! I’ve been doing this since I was eleven years old! I’m a professional! :o)

 

Sooooooo, needless to say, after having 3 different girl’s come up to me and ask me how I was doing, and if I needed any help…ONE that was suppose to be looking over my bag of items..I got aggravated, so decided to take their bait, and tell them what I was looking for.

 

 I already know the marketing game, after working in retail before, I know how it works, and I know that it is their job to lure you over to the most expensive items to get more money out of you. Convincing you that you need stuff that you actually don’t.

 

I told one of the sales girls that I was looking for two things. A coat for my daughter and a cowl neck cable knit sweater for another daughter. She asked me what style coat was I looking for, I told her a green mid thigh trench coat. She pointed over to the coat rack and told me that I would be able to possibly find one there.

 

I  then asked her when Tracy would be working again, THAT is the manager, and told her that Tracy knows me, given I’m a regular.

 

That must have made her think that I needed even MORE attention, because then she started to be even more friendly, asking me what type of sweater I  was looking for again….I figured that she would realize that I knew my way around good enough, and that she could move unto someone else. But…..

 

 I told her that I was looking for a cable knit cowl neck sweater that was not bulky.

 

 She then pointed to the sweater wall. I told her thanks for her help, and began to walk along, noticing that she was following me. I turned around and told her Thanks again! That I’ll go take a look, and she asked me what color was I looking for.  I told her brown or dark green. She then told me that all the colors were mixed in, that they were not suppose to be that way, and they had to fix that…I said, alright, thanks again. Then she asked what size my daughter was…..I told her medium, and she said that the mediums were all the way down to the left, but they are pretty mixed up right now too. I told her thanks, ((AGAIN)))while silently thinking to myself that I would have already found what I needed, had she not had me in so much conversation. *Grin*

She must have  finally got the hint, and mosied back up front. Yay!

 

I found not one, but 2 cowl neck cable-knit sweaters. They were ten dollars each. Both were name brands, and very well made. A steal!

 I then walked over to the coats, but  literately had to go through at least two-hundred before finding the exact one I was looking for. A dark green Old Navy Trench coat. It was $20… I was in Old Navy last month and they were selling retail for $49.99.  It was like new so I grabbed it, along with the two sweaters, and went to cash out.

 BEFORE I cashed out, one of the sales girls handed me back the tennis shoes. Both pairs! I asked her if she would mind telling me why they did not want them, after all, there was no signs of wear at all on either pair.

 ***DRUM ROLL***

 

 ….. She told me that they already EXPIRED!!!!!! YES, you read that right. Both pair of shoes had an expiration date on them. Who Knew!

 

Well, I felt rather stupid that I didn’t know, truth be told! 
 

I usually try to stay abreast of these things. I honestly did not know that under the tongue part of  name brand sneakers there is a date. Two dates in some cases. One says when they were manufactured. In this case it was 3/02, and next to it was another date that read 6/04. THAT was the months that they were sold, then retired…or in this case, EXPIRED. Isn’t marketing GREAT! THIS means that they know how long they will be selling things. Companies, I mean. They also are so smart to know that they can convince people to always buy retail and fresh by placing these dates on their items. Amazing!

 She told me that shoes,bags and clothing can not be more then 2 years old. That it didn’t matter whether they were like new…If they were old, then people will see the date and not want to buy it. Being LAST season and all…

 

 I asked her why won’t they buy it, and she replied….. because they will see that it’s not in fashion anymore! Woh!!

What have we turned into? *Sigh*

I had just bought both pairs of shoes a few months ago from another thrift store called, ‘Uptown Cheapskate’ I paid $12 for the pink ones but found they hurt my feet, and the same went for my husbands Nike’s.

 

Now the Nike’s, which were also like new were from 2008, and they expired just this past Summer she clued me in on. Darnnit!!!

Guess gray and navy blue Nike’s are just not in fashion anymore, and God knows that the Fashion Police will be out checking.

 

Really, I don’t know why I am so surprised by all this, but I am!

As for the Coat, which was a Abercombie & Fitch jacket, that runs for nearly $200 bucks at the mall…I had bought that for $30 last Christmas, from this exact Plato’s Closet. Not that she knew this, but had she asked, I would have told her…

 

That said–

It didn’t have an expiration date on it, but I played along and asked her if it too, Expired? 

 

She very seriously said, NO, they do not place expiration dates on their clothing because they are ALWAYS in fashion…..lol

 

So here’s too Abercombie!!! ALWAYS & 4-Ever in fashion! Gotta Love it!

 They offered me $15 bucks for it, which I took. I put that towards the other coat, and felt real good about it. :o)

I left the store a bit smarter, and that is always a good thing….

 

Lesson for today:

 

NOT only food expires, but clothing and shoes do too!

I came home and checked all my other name brand shoes, and sure enough, they have expiration dates on them.

 

 Same goes for designer clothes..Some of the brands that label their expiration dates are Gap, Old Navy,Gymboree ,Guess,and Avenue. I am sure there is more, but the brands that I have, mostly current (ha-ha) but many have expired years and years ago…..Poor me!

 

That said, TODAY I went back to Once Upon A Child with 6 little girls dresses (LIKE NEW) A cute unique 2 piece set from India, 3 pairs of girls boots, and a little boys pair of Reebok’s. The Reebok’s do not expire till this coming April! Yay!

 

 As stated, I’ve never sold to OUAC, but was hopeful, having made sure that all the dresses were washed and pressed, the shoes were clean, with barely any wear at all. Hopeful!

 

 I walked in, and the manager greeted me at the door, asking if I would like to sell the things in my hand.  I cheerfully said yes! She then asked me if I have ever sold before, I said no, but I was just in last night, bought a coat, and that I’m familiar with how Plato’s worked, if that helps.

 

She told me that they handle things differently, and I would need to show my ID and fill out the paper work, and have a seat. She told me that it would be about an hour before they would even be able to look at what I had.

 

 I looked around, noticed that it was pretty busy, and said OK.

 She was not at all friendly by now, and I was kind of feeling as if she was trying to discourage me from selling to them.

I was already warned months ago by a friend that both, Plato’s, AND OUAC will judge you by your appearance(what else is new?) Doesn’t everyone? Still bothers me to no end, but….

I made sure I was dressed extra nice today and looked the part. Whatever ‘the part’ was exactly.

 I mean, I wouldn’t be trying to sell them stuff if I didn’t need the extra cash!

 

Soooo, she handed me the paper work, and told me that next time the items need to be off the hangers and placed in a Rubbermaid BRAND bin. Preferable blue!

 

 Rubbermaid bin? $7.88 at Walmart—–Generic Bin at Walmart, or Dollar Store? $4.88

 

 Hmmm, so they want me to SPEND 8 bucks to bring them my stuff to sell.(Red Flag)
 

Then she told me that nothing can be over a year old.

 I should have left then, because the cute dresses that I had were all Vintage. But together retailed for $100 dollars! They looked impeccable! But none the less, they were Vintage. *sigh*

 

 I said alright, because secretly, I wanted to know how smart they actually were, regarding fashion. *Grin*

Weird part was, I  have shopped there for years, and always see Vintage clothing. I could have easily pulled her a side and picked out a dozen Vintage clothing items in less then 5 minutes! But Whatever!

 Vintage in actually VERY stylish right now! Don’t they know anything??

 

 **My point came to pass last night when I was in Plato’s and  over heard a mother and daughter chatting next to me. The mother had picked up a top, and asked her daughter if she liked it, or did it look to grannyish?

 

The daughter told her mom that NO, she didn’t really like me, but ‘Teen Vogue’ says that old fashion Vintage is hip right now…so she asked her mom to pass it over to her! See?

 

Vintage is in!

 But maybe for teens, not Toddlers? Crazy huh?

 The girl didn’t ‘really’ like it, But…..Teen Vogue says it’s Hip! So she wanted to take a closer look…

 

I think it’s funny, but I would be fooling myself if I said that I don’t ‘play the game’ every once in a while.

 

I KNOW that whether you are 4,14, or 40..You get judged by your looks in today’s world.

 You need to look a certain way, smell a certain way, and in some cases, ACT a certain way.

 The four year old at the play ground in the dirty ripped blue jeans and stained up over sized T-shirt, will not be having the other little girls coming over to her, asking  to play, as much as the pretty little girl with the frilly sparkle dress on.  :o(   I see it all the time!

 Same goes for the 14 year old. My daughter sees THIS first hand at church each week.  She tells me all about it, in discust!

 And as for me, I get it at every angle, and I’ll leave it at that.

So I filled out the paper work, apologized for not having the bin, Ahem…the BLUE Rubber Maid bin…and went to place my stuff on the metal shelf that she pointed too.

 I reached down to lay my stuff down, and BANG-A-BING!!  I whacked my head so hard, I nearly fainted. I seriously saw stars!  I now have an ugly egg on my forehead. Not very pretty!

 Holding back my tears, I told her that, THAT really hurt…Her reply? Oh, I do that all the time! !SHRUG!

 

 She then told me to go browse, and they will give me a store credit, and make me an offer in about an hour.

 I told her that I may not wait, as I had my husband in the car, and he has been waiting as it was. I went out to the car and told Dh, and he said that it’s not worth it and to never mind and go back and get the stuff.

 

 I told him that I wanted to give them a hafe hour, and that I was really hoping to get about $20 bucks for the stuff.

  THAT is not much, but I know they sell stuff cheap, and unless I want their prices to go wayyyy up, I would be happy with the $20! That is how it works.

 

They don’t give you much, but if they did, they would need to raise their prices, and if that were to happen, then you might as well shop at the mall.

 

I waited the hafe hour, and then went back inside, still seeing my pile. I walked over to the manager and told her that I would take my things back, and I had to leave.

 

She said that they actually did take 2 pair of shoes, and for me to get in line, and the cashier would show me their offer. I asked her why I had to get in line, not trying to be mean, but it was a very long line…

 

She told me that I would need to stand in line like everyone else that brings things in.

I thought that was handled horribly! The Manager should have handled it herself. Had it been me…Ugh!

But…..I went over to the line, suddenly not having a good feeling about it. I waited 13 minutes.(I timed the wait!)

 

 I reached the cashier, and over heard the manager tell her that I was number 44. The cashier walked over to the back counter and picked up a slip of paper. She placed it down in front of me and told me that they could offer me that amount. I looked down and saw $2.77.

 

I asked her if the dresses and outfit from India was not in style any more. The manager over heard me, and walked over and told me that there were no expiration dates in the dresses, and her guess, was that they were long Expired!

 

That some of the brands she has never even heard of.

I told her that Lil’Dolly, is Dolly Partons line of ‘Southern Frill dresses’ that are currently used in Beauty Pageant’s..and Baby LuLu is a French Boutique, same goes for Mousefeathers..

 

She then said, OH! Well maybe that is too ‘high end’ for us! LOL

 

She then excused herself and grabbed all the dresses. She put them on the counter in front of me, and turned the 2 into a 3. She then asked me if $3.77 sounded good to me for everything?

I picked up everything and told her thank you so much for HER time and have a nice day. Very politely, because as much as I hated it, I knew it was nothing personal….Just Business!

 

If this was not a franchise, I might have been even more understanding..But when there is a huge franchise, any franchise..my patience tends to runs thin. I really would love it if I could only buy locally. I have really been trying to do better, and back home, I was able to only buy local, because everything was at my beckon…As for today’s experience…..

I would much rather give my stuff away for FREE, then to take $3.77. But then again…That’s just me!

 

 

 

Say What?

When you share something with a friend, or a person that you trust, you’re not counting on that person to bring what you told them up at a later date to use against you. People tell me that I’m naive for thinking this way, but WTH?

I am pretty open with people that I trust. How is that a crime?

 

So when someone tells you that we ALL do it….That we all bring the past up with people, or save and record things that we have shared with them to use against them at a later date….THAT is nothing more then black mail! So please people, do not be so vindictive with your friends, OR even people who are not your friends…Where is the Love? Where is your Heart? I know none of us are perfect. I’m not perfect, but where can common sense play into this?

 

rant over

Organic Apple-Chicken Sausage

I rarely eat meat, but when I do, I prefer chicken or salmon. That said, I may have to start eating more of these simply delish organic apple-chicken sausages

I bought them at  Costcos, but they also have the smaller packs at Whole Foods. They are precooked, which means all you need to do is, boil them like a hotdog. I cut them into bite size pieces and placed them in a pot of heated spaghetti sauce, which was loaded with parmesan cheese. I know that Kraft parmesan cheese  is not the healthiest choice, but I am addicted to it!

My grandmother use to place a cup of Kraft parmesan cheese in a ziplock, along with a cup of potato flakes, bread her chicken, then bake it. So Yummy! But I honestly could just take it by the teaspoon and call it medicine!

Anyways, this was a shoutout to these Awesome Apple-Chicken Sausages!

Parks are not safe!

So, today was Veterans Day. I really wanted to take the kids to a parade, but dh  was not in a parade mood, so we compromised, and went for a nice drive, then took the kids to a park. We have many parks around us, but there is this one park that reminds me of a park we had back home. A bit of a drive, but it’s my favorite.  Or at least has been, up until now. Last year it got a bad rap because there was some guys that were starting to hang out and take pictures of  little girls playing on the monkey bars,swinging, etc., and were posting them on the net.   Evidently, there is no crime in strangers taking our children’s pictures, and placing them on the net. Grrr! Just look at the “How to” e-book that was being sold on Amazon! They finally just removed it. But it should not have been allowed to be sold in the first place. Sort of like pot pipes & bongs. It is illegal to sell the drug, but it is not illegal to sell the stuff that you use with the drugs. Figure that one out! *G* ~

We as parents some times place our kids pictures on the net,  but the thing is..it is US-not some stranger making this decision. I guess I see it as different. If I choose to place a picture of one of my kids on the net, it is ok. If someone takes a picture of my kid and places it on the web without my permission. It is NOT ok. And I have had friends do this to me before, and I kindly tell them not too.


 I know this is a touchy topic, but it does disturb me something awful that this stuff is allowed to be marketed. Falls under Freedom of Speech I suppose. :o/

 If I ever saw a guy taking a picture of one of my children without my permission, I would freak out, and there would be a scene.

So getting back to today…we decided to go to the park. It was very busy because there was no school today. This means being on full alert, and not being able to kick back on the park bench and just enjoy some fresh air.

~Right off the back I began to size everyone up, trying to pair all the adults up with their kids..Who is with who.

Everyone was accounted for except this one guy, early 30’s, who was sitting on one of the park benchs. He appeared to be alone. He was also watching some of the girls swinging, so I ended up walking over to him in hopes to strike up a conversation, to find out if he had any kids there, that maybe I did not see. It was very busy as stated, about 30 people!

~No sooner then later,  a young guy and a boy arrived. The guy looked to be in his early 20’s and the boy had to be at least ten. My first thought was that they were brothers. Maybe.

So, I continued to keep an eye on my  kids, and the guy on the bench.

 As I walked the playground, (DH was in the van) I noticed that the 20-year old guy with the boy started climbing up the ladder to the jungle gym. Obviously, he did not see the sign that said for children only.  And of course there was no park security any where.

Maybe these things do not bother the average mother, but I do not feel comfortable having grown men, or even teens, sliding down kiddy-slides right after one of my little girls have, or worst, climbing  through the none-see-through tunnels, while little kids are in them. NOT COOL!

So, this made me suspious enough to watch him. Then something caught my attention. I heard the little boy call him dad! I looked at him closer and there was just no way this guy was old enough to be this boys father. No wedding ring either, which might have meant  that this boy was his step-son.  Na-Da!

~Something still did not seem right, but before I could put my finger on it, I noticed that he walked over to my 6 year old and was trying to start up a conversation! Ugh!

I bee-lined over there and pulled her away, adding that we DO NOT talk to people that we do not know, and even then..not without mommy! I am really not as forward as I’d like to be. Dh always tells me that if I see a guy talking to one of the kids, be very forward, and bluntly put him on the spot, asking him if he is a child molestor, or just a pervert? Which is it?

Uh, I am simply not there yet!  But, I am getting closer.:o/

 I gathered up the little ones, and took them to another section of the park. We played a little more..and I had that false sense of security that the oldest two could handle their own..WRONG!

Twenty minutes later, we head back to the van, and my older daughter says…I can not believe that guy in the blue shirt mommy. I said, you mean the guy with the boy? She said, yes..

She said that she was playing on the monkey bars and he snuck up behind her and said Hi. She ignored him she said, and  skipped over to another part of the park. He followed her and told her to not run away from him!!!

OMG! I asked her what she told him and she said she told him nothing, just ran away once more.

I then explained to her how to handle that next time. Afterall-I would be nieve to think that there is never going to be a next time…*sigh*

So there ya have it…What a way to spoil a nice day!  I never had to go through this crap back home. :o(