Ebay buyers who Stalk

Shortly after I became a Christian, I started praying for patience. It’s not something I would suggest anyone to pray for..but I did. During that time I went through a lot with dealing with people. I try extra hard to see everyone how the Lord sees them. Through his lens.

We don’t know everyone’s circumstances. We don’t walk in their shoes. We can’t always judge a book by its cover. You get the point. 

But sometimes; especially recently, it’s been a hard pill for me to swallow. I guess I still fall short. As I still get flustered. 

But I’m never going to pray for paitence ever again. *grin*



I haven’t had too many bad apples this past year on eBay, but in the past four weeks, a particular lady has really irked me. 

So much, that I finally just blocked her. About a hour ago.

I love that you can block ebayers. The only thing is…that I wish they couldn’t private message you once blocked. They can! 😐

They just can’t bid/buy any of your items. And eBay tells them that they are blocked. 😳

And I should mention, as an eBay  store seller, if you don’t reply back to private messages, it goes against you. 

Back story: 

Last month I found my first plus size 8x cardigan. It was sparkly, and well… Large! Very!

I wasn’t familiar with the brand, but I figured that it may be something that I could flip for over $50, so I bought it. It cost me $5. I listed it for $70

It was new with tags, so it didn’t need much preparation. I snapped a few pictures, added some measurements, and put it right up for sale.

That evening my phone went off at midnight. (Ebay App,)

A lady asked me if it really was a plus size 8x. 

I responded to her right away. Yes. Yes it was.

12:15am she asked for measurements. 

I told her that they are in the description, then I screen shot them for her. (I know, not very professional. But I was in bed. Tired.)

I thought that was the end of it but then I woke up to two more messages from her.

1. Are you sure this cardigan will fit me? What if it’s too small?

2. What are your return policies?
Again, I replied back to her. 
Then I had several days of not hearing from her.

Then she messaged me once again, and told me that she will buy it now, but she will pay me in two weeks when she has the money. 

(Not exactly buying it tomorrow)

I replied back to her that that was not an option. 

Again, a few days passed.

Then she messaged me again and asked for more pictures. Ebay allows 12 pictures per item, so that what I took. I couldn’t imagine what other pictures I could possibly take, but wanted to keep good customer service, so I unwrapped the already wrapped cardigan, and took six more pictures of it. Then I messaged them directly to her.

Later that night she replied that the cardigan now looks smaller then the pictures that are in the auction listing, and why is that.
I replied to her that the first group of pictures were taken with the cardigan on a hanger, but the second bunch were taken as ‘flat lays’

Meaning, I laid it on the floor and stood on a chair and took them straight down..to give her different views. 

Otherwise they would have looked the same as the pictures in the listing.
She replied back and asked if I’d take any less for the cardigan. 

I replied back no, that I’m sorry but the price is firm. 

She then told me that she’s on a fixed income, and that is why she’s asking.

I then sent her to the actual website that sells the cardigans, and added that there are many similar ones in all sizes, that are on clearance now. Which was the truth because I went to the site and checked myself. You can buy up to 10x.

She then replied back to me and told me that she wants the one that I have listed. Notbone that is similar. 

I then needed a breather and ignored her.


The next day I thought I was in the clear.
But I guess that me not responding back to her right away, upset her. She asked me why I didn’t reply back to her the previous night. 

That, is when I should have taken the points against my account and not replied back to her. She’s a stranger to me. I do not own her an explanation. 😔

But I didn’t. Instead,  I lied and told her I’ve been busy working. Which is always true. I am always busy now… but it takes only a second to reply back to someone… So, I lied..

A couple days passed. I thought she was gone. But nope! 

She messaged me in detail about the wedding that she needs to attend.. 

I replied back okay. 

What was I suppose to respond back? She’s not a friend. 

She then messaged me to say that she really needs something for the wedding but simply doesn’t know if the cardigan will be too small or not.

By this point I was ready to tell her that I’d decided to keep the dang cardigan and use it for a blanket, or a table cloth… or maybe make a sparkly tent fit for a king!

I know.. I’m sounding like a big meany.. but I was at breaking point. 

So I sent her the measurements yet again, and told her to measure a current jacket and compare the measurements.
She responded that she doesn’t have a measuring tape and really needs the cardigan.

And told me that pay day was in a few days. 

She also added.. that she’s on state assistance.

I didn’t reply back. This is irrelevant to me. Business is business. I already went out of my way and sent her to the site to purchase one cheaper. 

The weekend came and she told me that she now has the money and will just do the Buy Now’ Option.

I told her okay, sounds good

And I even added a smile emoji. 

But a week went by and she didn’t buy it, so I figured she changed her mind. Which I was delighted!

But no…

It was midnight when my phone went off again. 

She asked me if the fabric was forgiving, and did it have a lot of stretch to it.

I replied back that it did… and added the exact fabric content. (Which was also in the listing.)

The next day she replied back that she’s going to pass on it. 


That was music to my ears! I even opened a bottle of wine to celebrate. I was that happy! 

That was the end of this month long headache.

But it wasn’t…

Last night at midnight she messaged me again and told me that she really needs the cardigan for a wedding in two weeks. 

Before I could reply back, she messaged me and asked what my return policy was again. That she’d forgotten. 

I replied. Then went to bed hoping that I wouldn’t have nightmares of her.. or that dumb cardigan which I now resented. In fact, maybe it needs to be cut up for rags! 

This morning she messaged me for more pictures. 

I told her no, that the cardigan is already in a poly bag shipper once again.

Then.. I had a very bad feeling that she was going to buy it, wear it to the weddjng, and then return it. Ding! Ding! Ding! 

So I added her to my eBay blocked list.
But–

Apparently,  she went to buy it but eBay sent her this message—

And that is the message she sent me.

Then she sent me this one:

I told her that I took it down because I sold it to a friend and that she may want to consider the website that has them on sale right now. Cheaper then what  I’m listing mine for…. And to take care… and I hope she finds what she needs. 

Bam! Done!

Or so I thought…..


Ignore….


Ignore:


Ignore…..

And here it is… 3:30pm

I have not heard back from her..

Praise the Lord!

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Week in Review

It has been the start to a busy new season for me.

These past couple of weeks I started Birthday and Christmas shopping, on top of my weekly sourcing. And yes! I’m getting mentally prepared for Black Friday. Well, Thursday, actually.

Four out of five of my kids birthdays are coming up. And my husbands birthday is the month of October too. Not to mention my own birthday. Which I don’t actually celebrate anymore. I mean, 29 forever, right?! 😉

The weekends are already booked with parties and Fall Festivals.

I did manage to spend the weekend with a couple friends who I have not hung out with in a while.
I have no internet service up where they live, so I was able to not work at all.

I am on my phone a lot… either listing, looking for inventory, researching or editing pictures. So it was a much needed break,  to just relax and catch up.

When I came back home I was right back to my normal routine of taking care of my family and well, routine. People ask me if doing the same thing week after week ever gets boring.. and the truth is, it doesn’t. I’m very maternal, so I love taking care of my kids and spending time with them. We start talking and three hours easily passes by.  I have one daughter in College. She’s coming home for Fall break this weekend. So I’m really looking forward to that.

I do my best to utilize time when it presents itself. But I’m definetly not perfect with time management. I bought a pretty vintage daily planner, but I just can’t bring myself to use it. I like to have the option of changing plans at the last minute. As much as I want to go back in time and plan every aspect of my life… I just can’t go there.
Getting back to boring….

What I would find boring is having a regular job and dealing with the same people all of the time. Even though I am a people person, I like talking to different people all the time. Whether through the Internet, or just out sourcing.

That said,  I’m very particular to who I share my time with nowadays. And it has made me a much happier, stable person. Either you are an investment to my life, and we lift one another up some how, or you don’t.  Life is too short to not live life to its fullest. 

Regardless of your circumstances…Is what I mean. I love life!

What’s new with Inventory…



Six out of the ten pairs of shoes I bought this past week  have already sold. I also picked up some scrubs that have been selling. I’m currently contemplating on whether to get into toys. I just gave away about $500 worth of zu-zu pets, with their accessories… Along with all my kids old Polly pockets and barbies.

 To be honest,  I have looked at toys for so many years, I’m just over it. Gosh! That sounds harsh. New life chapters began though. And that has been my focus.

I have a few things to list today after school.

Some Luluroe leggings, a couple of purses, and some statement sleeve tops.

I’m pretty set for this month. I do like to keep a dozen shoes in all sizes available though. Shoes sell very well. In fact, I just made an extensive list of shoe brands to share here.

Enjoy!

And if your business is thrifting…. 

It’s hard work, but keep it up! 

You WILL reach your goals. 😉
Extensive shoe list:


Top ((((Flats)))) that sell for over $50 per pair.

Chanel

Louis Vuitton 

Fendi

Burberry

Valentino

Chloe

Tory Burch

Tieks

Salvatore Vergamamo

Lanvin

Gucci

Celine

Alexander McQueen 

Henry Cuir

Paul Green

Free People Royals

Kate Spade

Gianvito Rossi

Sofia Webster

Aquazzura

Jimmy Choo

Prada

Miu Miu

Paul Andrew

Stubbs & Wooutton

Arche

Charlotte Olympia 

Tods

Beautifeel

Nickolas Kirkwood

J Crew color blocks
Comme Des Garçons 

Corso Roma

Repetto

Alexandre Birman 

London Sole

Ted Baker

Pucci

Rothys

Cole Haan

Stewart Weizmann 

Repetto

 Madewell

Jenni Kayne

AGL

Roger Vivier

Balenciaga 

Jack Rogers

Dolce Gabbana 

Frye

Certain Algeria prints 

Certain Dansco prints

Disney crocs

Vionic black ballet 

Jeffery Campbell

Vince

Lilly Pulitzer

Everlane

Birkenstock 

Doc Martins

Certain Coach

Certain Micheal Kors 

Marc Jacobs

Korks

LL bean 

Embellished Aldo

Sam Edelman

Donald Pliner flats


Keep in mind that these are flats only, I have not checked on these brands in heels, boots, oxfords, etc. but for flats, these brands are currently selling well.



Testimony & Weekend Sales

The month of August, I had a 22% drop in sales. It happened last year too. My guess, is that everyone’s extra money goes to school supplies, etc. 

Totally understandable, too. 

I was standing in line at Walmart a few weeks ago, and a there was a lady behind me who I felt called to give money too. I did not see her, I just heard her voice. 

I’m positive it was the holy spirits lead, as I did not know what the lady behind me looked like, or who she was, etc. I didn’t even know if she was a teacher. But I distinctly heard the Lord tell me me to turn around and give her all the cash I had. Not too much, as I rarely carry cash with me.  But I had taken out $30 the previous day, Not knowing why…

As I turned around to see who this lady was I heard her continuong on..talking to her kids, but I currently had no other details about her life.

I watched for a few seconds, as she begun taking a bunch of school supplies from her cart. I then noticed that her kids did not seem to be ‘school age’

So I reached in my purse and pulled out the money and asked her if she would mind if I helped out with all of that…(school supplies)

She told me that she had money to pay for it. That I was fine.

I asked her if she was a teacher. She said yes! 3rd grade. I told her that it would mean a lot to me if she would take the money. She smiled and said alright, and then thanked me…. then she thanked me several more  times, and shared that the stuff was for her class, and that it was going to be her first full time teaching job. I then cashed out, wished her luck, and left the store.

As I am getting older, I’m reallly recognizing the Lords voice to me, more and more.. it’s a wonderful feeling when you directly hear the Lord speaking to you and you are able to respond. Amen!

Getting back to my sales

Even with my sales down last month, I didn’t fret, and continued to pick up cheap yard sale finds for the next couple months, in conjunction to my weekly thrift hauls. 

I tend to put 20% back into the reselling business each week. God has been so faithful in providing and guiding..
So tonight I’m sitting here with a smile on my face… feeling very happy that with this weekend sales alone, it cover the cost of two of my kids Christmas gifts.

My son is getting a Kindle upgrade, and my daughter is getting a keyboard like her sisters.

I was also able to spruce up the house with a few needed things.


What did I sell over the weekend:

Two pairs of shoes. 

Two Halloween costumes.

A new SpongeBob Halloween DVD

And two blouses.

I have twenty more than myself to list this coming week, which were unplanned freebies, which will be 100% profit.

Did I mention how fauthfulnthe Lord is?! ❤️


Savannah Georgia

We visited one of the many tourist destinations in Savannah, Georgia. 

This ice cream place opened in 1919 by the Leopold Brothers. 

All the ice creams are home made. And it’s still owned and operated by the same family, generations later. 

I sampled several flavors before deciding on Lemon Custard.

The kids enjoyed the triple chocolate raspberry swirl and peanut butter chocolate chip ice cream. 

So if you are ever in Savannah, you must stop and try their ice creams. The prices were very reasonable too. 🙂


Midnight snack

Well, today was a case of the “Mondays” so now that the end is here and everyone is in bed, I prepared myself some rosemary ham and a very nice aged cheddar. 

For entertainment: The old 80’s movie, The Jewel of the Nile.

I only wish I had Romancing The Stone to watch first. 

Alas’ Life is Good.

Sunday

Today was the most relaxing day ever! Dh took all the kids this morning to a Christian concert at chruch and I got a chance to sleep in. I woke up at noon, swept and mopped the floors,had breakfast,watched the news,Googled a few things, and then they got back from the concert.

I had a late lunch all ready for them..Salmon burgers with swiss cheese,watermelon,grapes,salad and cheddar cheese bites. A very intresting combination, I know. But they enoyed it!

Then Dh went outside to do some outside stuff and the kids all went off to play..So I decided to go back to bed. I told Dh to wake me up no later then 4pm..But he didn’t, so I ended up waking up at nearly 5pm.  WOW! I am never going to get to sleep tonight…But I have 3 movies to watch so it will be fine.

I woke up and was ready to go out and do something fun, but it’s Sunday and everything closes early..so I asked Dh if he wanted to go out for dinner, which he did. We went to this seafood place  that we normally only get take-out, but decided to dine-in this time. It was good! When we were checking out, the owner said, ” I just want you to know that you are young, and you should not wait to do things that you want to do baby-doll…Please do everything that you want to do, because you may not have tomorrow…..” Then a guy behind me tossed a ten dollar bill on the counter and she said, “what is this for?”, and he said whatever you need it for..it is from God..She got teary eyed and thanked him, and then thanked us for dining there, reminding me to not wait to do things that I want to do.

Week in Review!

It has been some crazy week here!  

Today was a bit better. Dh took the day off so we could do some fun stuff.  We were suppose to take the kids to a homeschool group up in Virginia, but DH didn’t feel like making the long drive. It is a couple hours away…then we were suppose to go to the movies, but nothing good was playing… Then we were going to go out to one of my favorite restaurants, The Olive Garden, but decided to go shopping instead.  :o)

 We hit this Awesome store called Chef Smart. It is  sort of like Costcos, but not as big and you do not need to have a membership there. They mainly sell to  restaurants, but anyone can shop there. Everything was so cheap. I’m actually considering not to get my Costcos membership  refilled. That would save a hundred dollars a year in membership fees.

Next we hit a store called World market. I have only been there a couple times in the past to browse. It’s set up by country. They have the Spain area that sells stuff from Spain. Then the Japan area, England area, Italy area,etc.. It is such a great place to find unique foods from other countries, as well as intricate items that you would not find elseware. I found some great espresso cups and some tea mugs. They also had a great variety of silk scaves, and market bags that I was oggling over!

After that, we went to Platos, which is the only place that I can find unique jewlery, which has become a hobby for me. I like things that are different and jewelry seems to be something that should not have to be expensive to have the ‘wow factor’ or whatever it is called.  I prefer silver and tribal-ethnic looks, which are actually pretty hard to find.  Platos seems to be a place that I find them, as well as on ebay from Tibet, or India. Such beautiful looks! Today I found an great necklace that reminds me of a sun dial, and it was only five dollars!! Yay!

Tomorrow morning  is my first Zumba class! I’ll have to blog about how that goes tomorrow evening!  How bad could it be, Right?

Sunday we are taking the kids to see Avalon in Concert. They saw Chris August and tenth Avenue North last week. They are crazy about concerts, and I’m thankful that they are enjoying such smart music..unlike my teenage concerts that included, Metallica, Ozzy, and Red Hot Chili Peppers!   OH, and I did see the Eagles live, but that is as wholesome/smart  as it got. *G* My mom use to go to Elvis Presley concerts & Stevie Nicks! Gosh I feel old!

I’ll be posting a grocery shopping blog up on Monday. I need to upload all the pics.

Have  A Great Weekend!