Shortly after I became a Christian, I started praying for patience. It’s not something I would suggest anyone to pray for..but I did. During that time I went through a lot with dealing with people. I try extra hard to see everyone how the Lord sees them. Through his lens.
We don’t know everyone’s circumstances. We don’t walk in their shoes. We can’t always judge a book by its cover. You get the point.
But sometimes; especially recently, it’s been a hard pill for me to swallow. I guess I still fall short. As I still get flustered.
But I’m never going to pray for paitence ever again. *grin*
I haven’t had too many bad apples this past year on eBay, but in the past four weeks, a particular lady has really irked me.
So much, that I finally just blocked her. About a hour ago.
I love that you can block ebayers. The only thing is…that I wish they couldn’t private message you once blocked. They can! 😐
They just can’t bid/buy any of your items. And eBay tells them that they are blocked. 😳
And I should mention, as an eBay store seller, if you don’t reply back to private messages, it goes against you.
Last month I found my first plus size 8x cardigan. It was sparkly, and well… Large! Very!
I wasn’t familiar with the brand, but I figured that it may be something that I could flip for over $50, so I bought it. It cost me $5. I listed it for $70
It was new with tags, so it didn’t need much preparation. I snapped a few pictures, added some measurements, and put it right up for sale.
That evening my phone went off at midnight. (Ebay App,)
A lady asked me if it really was a plus size 8x.
I responded to her right away. Yes. Yes it was.
12:15am she asked for measurements.
I told her that they are in the description, then I screen shot them for her. (I know, not very professional. But I was in bed. Tired.)
I thought that was the end of it but then I woke up to two more messages from her.
1. Are you sure this cardigan will fit me? What if it’s too small?
2. What are your return policies?
Again, I replied back to her.
Then I had several days of not hearing from her.
Then she messaged me once again, and told me that she will buy it now, but she will pay me in two weeks when she has the money.
(Not exactly buying it tomorrow)
I replied back to her that that was not an option.
Again, a few days passed.
Then she messaged me again and asked for more pictures. Ebay allows 12 pictures per item, so that what I took. I couldn’t imagine what other pictures I could possibly take, but wanted to keep good customer service, so I unwrapped the already wrapped cardigan, and took six more pictures of it. Then I messaged them directly to her.
Later that night she replied that the cardigan now looks smaller then the pictures that are in the auction listing, and why is that.
I replied to her that the first group of pictures were taken with the cardigan on a hanger, but the second bunch were taken as ‘flat lays’
Meaning, I laid it on the floor and stood on a chair and took them straight down..to give her different views.
Otherwise they would have looked the same as the pictures in the listing.
She replied back and asked if I’d take any less for the cardigan.
I replied back no, that I’m sorry but the price is firm.
She then told me that she’s on a fixed income, and that is why she’s asking.
I then sent her to the actual website that sells the cardigans, and added that there are many similar ones in all sizes, that are on clearance now. Which was the truth because I went to the site and checked myself. You can buy up to 10x.
She then replied back to me and told me that she wants the one that I have listed. Notbone that is similar.
I then needed a breather and ignored her.
The next day I thought I was in the clear.
But I guess that me not responding back to her right away, upset her. She asked me why I didn’t reply back to her the previous night.
That, is when I should have taken the points against my account and not replied back to her. She’s a stranger to me. I do not own her an explanation. 😔
But I didn’t. Instead, I lied and told her I’ve been busy working. Which is always true. I am always busy now… but it takes only a second to reply back to someone… So, I lied..
A couple days passed. I thought she was gone. But nope!
She messaged me in detail about the wedding that she needs to attend..
I replied back okay.
What was I suppose to respond back? She’s not a friend.
She then messaged me to say that she really needs something for the wedding but simply doesn’t know if the cardigan will be too small or not.
By this point I was ready to tell her that I’d decided to keep the dang cardigan and use it for a blanket, or a table cloth… or maybe make a sparkly tent fit for a king!
I know.. I’m sounding like a big meany.. but I was at breaking point.
So I sent her the measurements yet again, and told her to measure a current jacket and compare the measurements.
She responded that she doesn’t have a measuring tape and really needs the cardigan.
And told me that pay day was in a few days.
She also added.. that she’s on state assistance.
I didn’t reply back. This is irrelevant to me. Business is business. I already went out of my way and sent her to the site to purchase one cheaper.
The weekend came and she told me that she now has the money and will just do the Buy Now’ Option.
I told her okay, sounds good.
And I even added a smile emoji.
But a week went by and she didn’t buy it, so I figured she changed her mind. Which I was delighted!
It was midnight when my phone went off again.
She asked me if the fabric was forgiving, and did it have a lot of stretch to it.
I replied back that it did… and added the exact fabric content. (Which was also in the listing.)
The next day she replied back that she’s going to pass on it.
That was music to my ears! I even opened a bottle of wine to celebrate. I was that happy!
That was the end of this month long headache.
But it wasn’t…
Last night at midnight she messaged me again and told me that she really needs the cardigan for a wedding in two weeks.
Before I could reply back, she messaged me and asked what my return policy was again. That she’d forgotten.
I replied. Then went to bed hoping that I wouldn’t have nightmares of her.. or that dumb cardigan which I now resented. In fact, maybe it needs to be cut up for rags!
This morning she messaged me for more pictures.
I told her no, that the cardigan is already in a poly bag shipper once again.
Then.. I had a very bad feeling that she was going to buy it, wear it to the weddjng, and then return it. Ding! Ding! Ding!
So I added her to my eBay blocked list.
Apparently, she went to buy it but eBay sent her this message—
And that is the message she sent me.
Then she sent me this one:
I told her that I took it down because I sold it to a friend and that she may want to consider the website that has them on sale right now. Cheaper then what I’m listing mine for…. And to take care… and I hope she finds what she needs.
Or so I thought…..
And here it is… 3:30pm
I have not heard back from her..
Praise the Lord!