~Keeping professional in your Business~Several years ago I remember a news story about a bakery not wanting to serve a homosexual couple a wedding cake.Then there was another story of a woman who would not issue a marriage license to a gay couple. At that time in my life I was torn with it, and to be honest; up until today, I still was.I didn’t grow up in a religious household, but in later life fell into the religious trap. And when I say trap, I’m not bashing religion by any means. What I am saying is that during the time when my circle of friends were very “Pharisee-like” so was I. I just read last week that you become like the five people you mostly talk with. 🤔I had a circle of thirty or so people who were very strict and religious. They liked to refer to one another as accountability partners. Not friends! So I went from spending the first part of my life being very worldly. And then I spent the second part of my life as very judgy, to now, finding a healthy balance with people. Including myself. Fifteen years ago I was at a church where a eighty year old woman told me to never forget to… “Love them anyways.” We are called to show love. Not choose WHO deserves our love. Because we ALL do. We need to be genuine on showing this love.I had only been saved five or so years during the time this church lady shared. What she called, her LIFE MOTTO, so at the time I didn’t know what she meant, exactly. Having went the complete opposite direction for a period, I felt horrible inside. That said,I felt somehow, that God loved me a bit more then everyone else because I isolated myself against any Ungodly people. I did not understand why I felt so awful when I was earning Gods favor in the only way that I knew how. I started thinking very, for lack of better wording.. Amish. Old school Amish! To give a picture of my mind at the time..It was a very lonely journey. Romans 3:10 says:As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one. I’m not sure why I felt better then anyone else, but I suppose that is what religion can do to you.During that period of my life I met another woman who seemed to be the complete opposite of me. She loved everyone! She extended so much love to everyone and everything, that it use to make me upset inside.Yes, Upset?! 😳She would tell me that Jesus loved everyone equally. Love the sinner, hate the sin. We are all pretty familiar with that phrase.Yet at the time, I didn’t really know how that fit into my life with God. What I do know now, is that hate and discord only multiplies. And it causes so much division in this world. 😔I’m realizing that I CAN love everyone and not change the world one bit. But I CAN have everyone who crosses my path leave me a bit happier then what they were, before we crossed paths. So while it’s impossible for one person to change the worlds ways…I can make a small difference.Whether a smile or hello, or even a ten minute conversation with a stranger who is going through a hard time, and needing someone to vent to, or hear his/her story…Or like today, a transgender person.Last week I had a man reach out to me and ask for help. He told me he was currently transitioning into becoming a woman, and liked a lot of the things I was reselling online. He wanted to know if he sent me his new measurements, would I help him shop my store. My first initial thought was no, this makes me uncomfortable. So I just ignored the request. After all, I’m a Christian, and I feel like men should remain men, and women should remain women. And while I do truly believe this, it should not affect me helping someone who is asking for my help. Currently we have a Chaplain in our Sunday school class that says when he is working at the hospital he will pray and bring bibles to everyone who asks. Fine. But this also includes Muslim patients who are ill and ask him for their holy book, the Koran. On occasion, he gets asked why he brings the Koran to the Muslims. And he reply’s that here in America, we have Freedom of Religion. And had he been ill in another country, and at the mercy of the hospital staff and asked for the Bible, he would like to have it brought to him. Most likely it would not be given to him per request, but here in America we have Religious Freedom, and he would never let his personal/religious views reflect his Job and professionalism. He has also shared that he’s had Muslims at the hospital ask him about Jesus, due to his genuine love he’s extended to them. Getting back to my recent encounter…It took this Transgender man three to times reaching out to me. And it shouldn’t have. I’m currently disappointed in myself. So tonight I extended Love regardless. I remained professional and helped clothe this transsexual man. I explained to him how ladies sizing runs, and told him about different fabrics. He seemed very grateful, and told me that he’s not use to women being so helpful and nice. And placed an order with me. It was really all very simple. 🙂If anyone has a similar story, please feel free to share. I’m going to be replying back to all comments next week, as time allows.
Be warned. This is something I’ve been adding to for the past month, and will be jumping all over the place. But….🙃
~Today’s Youth & Lifestyles~
Why do today’s youth frown at having a service job? Aka’ flipping burgers; sort of speak.
Didn’t all the us that grew up in the 80’s want to work so damn bad, that whether it was in a fast food joint, or cleaning up animal messes, if we got a pay check, we were all in!
Could it be because we were use to doing without?
People always question why? Why don’t kids want to start at the bottom?
I fall into this category too.
Most fast food places that I go to are basically run by the 40+. I always am confused by this.
Oftentimes I think it’s because more kids are in college full time until they reach thirty. Many remain at home and don’t work at all. I think I have found a couple puzzle pieces to this. Of course I could be wrong.
But….back in the days when we started removing both parents from the home, more often then not, out of necessity. I realize this.
By having both parents working, and hourly wage improving, parents had more money then their grandparents. More money coming into the home,eventually meant more vacations, toys, etc.There came a point, and I think it really took off in the early 90’s… where parents started providing more for their kids. Whether this was out of guilt, for not being around after school for them, or tucking them in at night…
Regardless, the more kids received, set the stage for MORE! MORE! MORE!
Always wanting more.
They saw their parents not saving for anything anymore, simply charging it.
Long gone are the days where people do without, use cash, save for all major purchases, and go on only a few vacations each decade.I will be the first to raise my hand here.
My mother was a single mom, but had several credit cards. When I wanted something, like new red Reebok High-Tops, because all my friends had the latest and greatest, she would get them for me. I can’t recall a time that I really wanted something that I did not get. Of course at the time, I didn’t realize how much damage it was doing to me. Or, that it would be thrown in my face for the next forty years.
But that’s besides the point.
My kids started off getting an allowance, but the more money that came into my household, did not mean a larger allowance. No, it meant no allowance, and I would just buy it.
Or charge it.
Before my family made a major move, more then a decade ago, we were swimming in maxed out charge cards.
We both became a part of the problem, which is why I don’t mind talking bluntly about this now. We have never been upper middle class, but I do consider us middle class.
However, there was a time when we were living paycheck to paycheck. I think this is the major reason people decide to get credit cards. After we sold our first house, we paid off all our credit cards and cut them up.
It was liberating!
We lived within our means for around five years. Then we started feeling bad for not being able to give to our kids what their peers had. So.. the cycle began again.
But by this time, along with a couple credit cards, I started working full time. Let’s be honest, even adults enjoy new things and instant gratification every so often.And while I have always been perfectly happy with ‘new to me’ things, I do like my lattes and avocado toasts as much as today’s youth.
I also like having a new cell phone every couple years. Keeping in mind- that all my work is through my phone.
And if I didn’t have a phone, I would not be working. That says something about myself. Something rather ugly, but we won’t get into that today.
In a nutshell, I’m all about convenience. I spent many years doing things the hard way. Now I want to do everything in half the time.
Much like today’s youth.😐
I don’t like gardening, yet enjoy organic foods. I have medical issues like everyone else, so during times of not feeling my best, I like to treat myself.
Again, ‘new to me’ but none the less.
We use to take yearly vacations, now that has increased to about 2-3 a year. Nothing fancy, but again, none the less.. a weekend trip here and there still counts. I think all these little things turn into bigger things over time. And while I have never felt that I had a ‘lifestyle’ to uphold, when comparing my families life to my neighbors, I’d be lying to think otherwise.
I’m thinking of how all the little things that I’ve grown accustomed to having, are the beginning of a lifestyle. We use to bring thermos of coffees and ice waters. Then I switched to buying a case of bottled water, and having it in the trunk for the kids to have whenever they get thirsty. Then my husband and I would treat ourselves to convenient store coffees.
After All, what’s a .89 coffee. 7-11 was our favorite because they were the first to offer free coffee syrups.That transitioned into Sheetz coffees for $2ea, and then to Dunkin Donuts coffees for $3ea, and now to $5 Starbucks lattes. Which I secretly hate, but my husband still adores. I use to pack lunch bags and coolers for trips to the city, zoo, hike, etc. But now we just go out to eat if we are out and get hungry. It started off with three Little Ceasers pizzas for only $5 each. To feed a family of seven for $15, is almost unheard of.
So why not?! But then we switched over to stuffed crust ones at $8 each. Feeding a family of seven for $24. Doable!
When we first started going out to eat more regularly, we would all order things to share and only order water to drink. For the seven of us, this kept the bill at around $40-$50 before tip. But now it’s almost double! With tip, it is!
Everyone gets a drink, and most of the time we all have our own platters. And yes, leftovers.
I remember a few years ago being out with my mother at the grocery store and reaching for a Diet Coke at the check out. She commented to me, asking me why I was going to spend $1.39 for a drink, when we were ten minutes away from her house.I told her because I was thirsty now, and why not?! What’s $1.39. She rolled her eyes and told me that I could buy a two liter Diet Coke for that price, and she could not justify it, and couldn’t believe I was. I then asked her if she was thirsty, and told her that I’d buy one for her too. She said that she was fine to wait ten minutes. And then got angry with me.
Last year I was out with my mother again and my teen daughter wanted a fancy frozen coffee. I asked my mother if she could pull through a Starbucks to get some coffees. She responded the same way as before, asking me why she couldn’t wait ten or fifteen minutes and make coffee at home.
My reply again…Why? We are out already.
So you see, I get it! And I realize that I’m part to blame. While I don’t fall into the mind frame of needing everything to be brand spanking new, I do enjoy the little things in life.
This reminds me of a family that we use to know years ago. They were considered upper middle class. Which I’m told, means six figures.
I guess in today’s world, Rich, means you are bringing in a seven figure income.
Six figures means upper middle class.
Anyhoo, I was over this families house one day, and she told me that her husband just got laid off. Her main state of sadness, was that she was going to have to cut back, and not be able to buy her fancy coffee beans.
At that time in my life I was secretly rolling my eyes thinking… Ohhh poor you!
I was making Maxwell House and Folgers coffee at the time.
Later, I started buying those same coffee beans! 😐
But tying this story into ‘lifestyle’ and having the simple things in life..
She was really stressed out by the thought of not being able to buy the type of coffee she was accustomed to having.
THIS was something that mattered to her.
Later she opened a Go Fund me type of page and got enough funds donated, to buy their coffee beans. And she later mentioned that some neighbors blessed her family with a case of, said coffee beans.
And again, at that time… I thought this all sounded absurd to me.
Probably a lot like how my mother saw me buying a drink and coffee out, and not wanting to wait ten minutes until I got home.
This was years ago, but it has taken this long for me to realize that we all have little things that we find important. Things that we would miss if our ‘lifestyles’ changed.
This brings me to the conclusion that we ALL have lifestyles. Whether it’s buying a cheaper wine when times are tough..
Making your coffees at home with cheaper ground coffee..
Using milk instead of cream..(my husband would rather go without coffee if we have no cream in the house. This is his simple luxury)
Not having bottled water on hand and having to drink tap..
Having to get regular, instead of premium gas..
Having to paint your own nails and do your own hair, instead of salon visits..
The list is endless.
We all have little things that we will continue to roll our eyes on, when hearing…
But these little things are our lifestyles.
They mean something to us..
And today’s Youth have a lot more in common with us then we think.
That is very hard to think about. But maybe our grandparents went through the same. I don’t know.
Back in my day, I was making $5.25 a hour and was able to afford a $325 a month rent, buy my food, and afford public transportation. So I really don’t get how minimum wage is double here, and kids feel as though they can’t afford a $600 rent and remain at home.Then again… that would mean cutting out Fancy Lattes, Drinking strictly Almond Milk, having new phones, and yes, daily Avocado toast.
And I would not even omit any of that myself. 😁
So tell me about your lifestyle.
What is something that you would rather not do without.
Would you open a Go Fund Me page for it? 🤔
It’s just the little things when it comes to our family. Which is a super relaxed one.
So far we have lounged by the pool.
Hooked up with another homeschool family.
Ate out way too much.
Went to the mall.
Went to Royal Nails, which is said to be the best nail salon five years running. And yes they were!
Tomorrow we are taking the kids to Hannah’s Mirrored Maze. (Will post pictures then.)
We have been doing ubur again on vacation. It really is nice.
Per usual, the resort beds do not compare to our temperpedic back home, so I had to buy tiger balm for the back pain.
I also went to target and found this cute photo prob for eBay. 😉
I have noticed a huge difference between people in SC, verses people in NC. I’ve never noticed it before. I won’t say which is which, but one state has friendly people then the other.
A quick run down on this past years negative feed backs and returns.
For the amount of things I sell, which is roughly one hundred per month, I receive four returns per month. It is rare that someone is ugly, but it has happened a few times this past year.
These are the items where people were not very nice. Therefore, after they were handled with, they were added to my eBay blocked list. Ebay has this option for people who you do not care to do business with in the future, so it’s a must.
1. Authentic Gucci Guilty Parfume– Buyer claimed it arrived shattered, but did not want to go through post office protocol for insurance return claim.
I asked for a picture to submit as proof to the post office; seller refused. Then seller left a negative feedback claiming the Parfume bottle she received was empty. (This did result in a full refund because she filed an eBay claim.)
2. Burberry Inspired Plaid Wallet– Seller did not read title or description, stating that the wallet was a designer inspired Burberry look. She thought she got a new Authentic $220 Burberry wallet for $15. She filed a claim and received a refund while leaving me a negative feedback too.
(Not everyone is nice, I realize this is part of the real world, and business.)
3. Mens Sanita Clogs– Seller left a negative feedback stating that even though the shoes were new with tags, they fell apart on the job. This was fifty days after he received them. (Who is to say, but I am not the manufacturer of the brand, so he did not get a refund.)
4. Travelers knit skirt– Seller claimed that the skirt arrived with a heavy gasoline smell. Seller never contacted me before leaving a negative feedback.
I state that I prewash everything in Arm & Hammer detergent, ‘Fresh Scent’ and that if you have any allergies, to please not purchase from me. Regardless, seller left a negative feedback.
Also…Arm & Hammers detergent doesn’t smell like gasoline. Does it? 🤔
I politely contacted her for an explanation. She stood firm that the skirt smelled like gasoline. I offered her a refund in return for her to remove the negative feedback. Which she did. She also apologized to me, and it turned out that she was a seller also.
5. Urban Decay Foundation– This was listed as a new without box face Foundation. I bought it and it was too dark for me, so I sold it.
I stated twice, that I did not have the box anymore. Seller left me a negative that said it was good, but had no box. I didn’t contact her or refund her. She did not file any claims.
So there you have it. These were all the bad apples that I had for 2017, regarding eBay.
I did have another lady that threatens to leave me a negative if I didn’t XYZ… and I reported her.
urrently I am Expecting two more returns. Both from people who said that the items did not fit. Which is fine. I do make sure that I always list the garments measurements. But these things happen. Measurements are a must if you are a clothing seller. Of course I do find it odd at times, because I buy things second hand all the time, and never pull out a tape measure beforehand. I also never bother trying anything on at the mall, Marshall’s, TJ Max, etc. I know my size, and what fits.
I’m not a return it type of gal either. I have bought plenty on eBay in the past that didn’t fit, but I can’t be bothered with returns, so I use to just pass things onto friends. Nowadays, I simply resell them. I have a fair amount of resellers who purchase from me, and then return if they don’t like the fit.
In my mind, I’m always thinking… you are a seller, why don’t you just resell the item on your account? Why bother with a return..
t is also interesting to note that the people who pay $9-15 for an item, are generally the ones that return them.
This group of buyers are even responsible for paying to have the item returned to me.
So if sell a item for $14.99, the buyer pays $7.20 also, for shipping.
Then they pay $7.20 a second time to receive the $14.99 refund back. But really, they are only getting $7.79 back. 🤔
So if you want less returns, I have found that selling items over $20 is the way to go. Currently my average is $26
I am hoping to get it to double that by this time next year.
Blocking someone on eBay is very easy to do.
I am not sure what it is about the colder weather that always makes me feel so frumpy and grumpy.
Perhaps it is because with the colder weather I am not feeling very cute with layers upon layers of clothing.
Being a plus size woman, big oversized coats and sweaters always make me feel like a beach whale. And I’m not saying that everyone looks or feels like this if they are packing a few extra pounds, but for me… I just feel frumpy. And it really does affect me.
I still have 2x and 3x clothing in my closet that are simply too big. Yet, I keep reaching for them because they are oversized and cozy.
But then I feel so frumpy with shirts hanging off my shoulders revealing my bra straps.. and baggy in the middle, which causes me to question… am I wearing a maternity top?! 🤨
So no more! I’m back in full force at the gym and currently fasting, so I really have no plans of ever needing the larger size clothes anymore, despite me reaching for them constantly.
I know that when I dress more tailored and wear more fitted clothing, I feel my best. I feel motivated, and put together. Not like a middle aged frump!
I still love my yoga pants and livi tees, but I need to get rid of all the 2x abs 3x clothing and only leave my 1x clothing.
I am finding that while I am out sourcing 5x a week now, I am simply not taking care of myself the way I once did. And I’m disappointed in myself.
So that, is yet another New Years Resolution I plan to put into action this week.
When I take some time for myself, it benefits everyone and everything around me.
Fall, in general, is always the busiest time of year for me. It starts off with three birthdays in October, and then carries onto another three in November. Throw in Halloween and Thanksgiving, Black Friday ….and then December is here.
My wedding anniversary is this month.
99% of my shopping has been done.
Children’s activities are in full swing, and the little down time at home that we have is spent on baking, decorating, and Christmas movies.
I’m not complaining, in fact, I love it. So much!
I can’t imagine a life without family things.
My kids are a huge part of my life.
I thought as they got older, it would start to feel somewhat empty. But I’m quickly realizing that it’s even more fulfilling.
I love being a mother so much!
I have never been able to relate to other mothers who complain about their kids, or look forward to having them in school, and not at home.
Of course this is the only life I’ve ever known. And my kids are extremely well behaved, and genuinely enjoy spending time with each other.
I suppose if there was arguing and fighting all day, I’d feel very different about family life.
I think we want to give our children the life we never had. And for me, it was two very absentee parents. So for my family life, stability and focus, has always been my number one priority. It’s important to me, for my kids to have the stability and unconditional love that I never had growing up.
And that’s all I’m going to share on that.
I need to get up out of bed and get motivated. I see that my daughter has left me a cup of tea next to my bed before she left for class this morning. ❤️
I’ve been laying here since 6am thinking about this coming week.
We leave in a few days for a mini vacation.
My husband surprised me with K-Love Christmas concert tickets, and I’m very excited. He’s very introverted and doesn’t like crowds, so this really was a true act of LOVE. ❤️
Moving on to some activities in pictures.
Our first snow! It’s been in the 30’s. ❄️🌨
Stunning picture of our American flag that I took in Greensboro, NC the other day.
So we have our first snow. ❄️😃
Headed out to pick up some staples. The stores have plenty of milk and bread, but what’s going on with the Sunny D shortage. 😳
Not that I buy it, just pointing it out. 😁
I went to pick up a DVD for the kids to have a marathon tonight, but it looks as if everyone had the same idea.
Got the last one, along with some snacks!
And I didn’t leave myself out.
Remember, all about balance. 😁
I also want to share, that wile out and about during this time of year, or really anytime of year… it only takes a second to steal someone’s bag, so I like to always hook it up in the child seat. Like so-Yes, someone can still grab it, but you will have time to interview with it fastened. ;)My cousin has had her purse stolen from Walmart twice this year, hence this use. Anyone getting any snow yet? 10pm update:
8am next day:
This was our Holiday Bucket List this year.
1. Buy new tree & decorate as a family.***
2. Buy everyone a new ornament.***
3. Christmas Caroling
4. Watch seven Christmas movies.***
5. Go to Tanglewood light festival.
6. Go to Christmas concert.(Have tickets for next week)
7. Spend weekend at a nice hotel and relax.(happening next weekend)
8. Bake Christmas cookies & surprise friends.
9. Christmas Cards out by the 10th. ***
10. Black Friday Christmas Shopping.***
11. Read a couple Holiday themed books.**
12. Buy Christmas dress.
13. Build Gingerbread House***
14. Make a Holiday themed coffee,cocoa, cider bar.***
15. Decorate whole house in Christmas decor.***
16. Buy Christmas bed sheets.
17. Visit a Holiday craft show. ***
18. Treat myself to a Holiday eye shadow palette.***
19. Christmas craft Day
20. Ugly sweater Christmas party
As many of my regular blog readers know, I’ve been on a Walmart purse kick these past few months. I now own three Walmart purses.
To be honest though, one is falling apart already. Fast fashion will never hold up. 😔
However, since I was surprised to have found a few hidden Walmart purse gems, I decided to revisit their Faded Glory clothing line.
I use to love their George line, but it has been discontinued for years. At least in my neck of the woods. It was made well though.
So the other day I stumbled across these comfy pull over tunics. They had a regular price of $7.97ea, but were reduced to $5 each.
I grabbed three of them.
Where else could you get three tops for $15.
Well, a thrift store of course! But these were new and on clearance so I decided to give them a whirl. I bought a gray, green, and pink one.
I didn’t notice a smell at the time, but I’m not in the habit of sniffing my purchases.
I came home, took the tags off, and set them on the dresser.
The following day I wore the pink one.
I loved the true to size fit, and complimenting sleeves and neckline.
I felt good in it. It was also a nice longer length that covered the bum area. Something my modest self always appreciates.
About an hour after wearing the new top, I broke out in an arm and chest rash.
I assumed it was from a new perfume I tried out earlier in the day, so just went about my business.
It was itchy, but not over bearing enough to take a benedryl.
That night I tossed in it in the laundry pile.
The next day I put on the gray one, and I didn’t have any perfume on at all,but sure enough… arm and chest rash started in.
It was a bit more itchy then the previous day.
But again, I went about the day, showered that night..
About thirty minutes after getting my PJ’s on, the rash went away. So I didn’t give it another thought.
This takes me to today, I woke up and noticed a chemically smell in the bedroom.
I got dressed, placing the green tunic on, and within moments I realized that the smell was the top I was wearing.
I went and picked up the other two tops to see if they had the smell, and although it wasn’t as pungent as the green one, they did have a strange chemical odor.
My daughter walked over to me and gave me a hug, then she asked what that odd smell was. And by that time my arms were breaking out with the rash.
I quickly showered and changed, and then decided to Google Walmart clothing to see if anyone else in the world was having these issues. And sure enough… I had my reading cut out for me.
People all over were saying that they have had rashes, and that certain Walmart clothing items stink. Specifically their denim jeggings.
Many claimed that after you wash the garments, they smell even worst.
Some people have claimed that it’s all the insecticides used in the wear houses, while others claim it’s the cheap dyes that are used when processing.
I have not tried washing them yet, but plan to later tonight. I am going to add a bit of vinegar to the wash. Some folks have said they have tried everything to get the stench out, but vinegar was one of the only things that worked. Sort of.
So, I guess I’m back to only buying ‘new to me’ clothing. I’m very big on recycling, and I’d much rather purchase high-end gently worn clothing that’s made well, then cheap clothing that are filled with irritants.
Perhaps it’s only people with sensitive skin though, such as myself. Who knows, but I’m not willing to go through this again.
Let me know what f anyone else has ever had this happened to them. 😐
I know I’m late to the party, as this mascara has been out for over a year. I think it may hVe launched the end of 2015. 🤔
Everyone and their cousins sister has been raving about this particular mascara. My friends have all asked me about it, and even my daughter told me how great it was.
But seeing as I’ve become somewhat of a high end mascara snob, I’ve been using Benefits they’re real mascara for over a year, and simply love it. I also use the matching mascara primer. And when I want something different on the lower end, I enjoy Hard Candy’s lash ink mascara, which lasts for 3-4 days with no touch ups.
That shared, while I was at Walmart last night, I noticed the Revlon mascara display and noticed this mascara.
Thoughts popped into my head of everyone who has told me how great it was.. and for under five dollars, I thought I’d give it a go.
I decided to try it this morning and as soon as I opened it, I knew it was not going to be good.
Like, what is this gloppy mess?! Really!
Wayyy too much comes out and there seems to be a huge opening without that added plastic piece that is suppose to wipe off the extra mascara from he wand. As you can see, it’s a huge mess!
I did try it out, but it was so horrible looking that I didn’t even take a picture of the mess. It clumped all my eye lashes together.. just as I expected it would. And looked as if I had a black eye when trying to remove it.
It just seems like such a waste if I have to tissue off all the added product left on the wand every time I use it. I did like the size of the small wand. It’s the formula that was the issue.
So I will be bringing it back to the store tonight for a refund.
I showed my daughter and she said that hers didn’t look like this, so perhaps it was a bad batch.
But for now, I will continue on with what I know works.
Has anyone else had a similar experience with this one?