When we hear the word, what is the first thing that comes to our minds?
When I was a little girl, it was the dancing scene in the original Cinderella Disney movie. Unfortunately, that changed when I was in a School spelling Bee and had the word and forgot the i. Ever since then, that is what I think of when I hear the word marriage. *sigh*
Moving right along…
What makes a Happy, Life Long marriage?
I think you may get a hundred different answers if you asked a hundred different people.
I asked several of my friends and received many typical, goes without saying answers. Along with some other more interesting ones.
Your basic answers were,
Having a spouse who make you laugh
Having things in common
Not sharing the same bathroom
Not sharing the same bed
Not passing gas in front of each other
Sex every other day
Never going to sleep angry
Having the same hobbies
Having the same friends
Never having friends of the opposite sex
Some of the more interesting ones were,
Having coffee in the morning and sharing a couple blessings with one another.
Reading a chapter of scripture together and then discussing it.
Reading the same book and then discussing it.
Writing each other notes of appreciation.
People watching and making up stories about the people you are watching.
Having your own friendships.
Having the same diet.
Taking turns with the daily chores.
Hiring a housekeeper.
Taking turns with the cooking.
Surprising each other with gifts.
Learning each other’s Love language.
Kissing each other every single day.
Taking a class together.
Going for monthly massages and pedicures together.
Keeping no records of wrongs.
Being able to talk to each other for hours on end.
Going to bed with one another every night and waking up with each other every morning.(At the same time)
Cutting each other’s finger nails
Taking a yearly cruise.
Having a large enough house so each can have their own space.
Having separate bank accounts.
Having an open marriage.
Having the same parenting style, proving you have kids to raise.
My my! So extensive, right?
I do agree with many, but was actually scratching my head at a few.
I think the dynamics of marriage is definitely changing with this generation. I have been married for twenty-five years and things are very much different then they were twenty five years ago. The world is very different, too.
Many people are choosing to not get married at all. It’s more acceptable then ever. Even to raise a family together and not be married is on the rise. I remember hearing about Goldie Hawn and her long time partner as a child, and thinking how crazy it was that they were not married, nor had any plans to marry.
Some people nowadays are even getting married but keeping their own houses and apartments to supposedly, keep it fresh! And never get on each other’s nerves. They simply have date nights, and then go home to their own spaces.
Some people have chosen to remain single and just go out and take care of their needs. They want to be seen as strong and not needing anyone.
Others are marrying their career and pets.
Oh! And in NYC, you can marry yourself!
I won’t get into the utter selfishness this all seems to me, but in all honesty, it does narrow down to that.
Marriage teaches you something new every single day. It’s a selfless act and non stop work that can, and does, have lifelong benefits. You really learn the concept of love.
I got married on a whim. It was not planned at all.
Pretty much a drop of the hat, twenty five years ago. God had a plan that I was not going to get in the way with. Has it been super easy? Absolutely not! But alas’
My husband saved me from myself. And a year later, Christ revealed himself to me and my whole life changed forever.